I can really relate to your story. Sometimes, the most opposites attracts in this world. I have been married for just shy of 35 years, I always assumed I would go first, being older and a male, but your event is making me re-think that process. As a nurse, my wife is a terrible patient, and doesn't practice what she preaches about health care for others, so I am always having to listen closely to what she is saying about how she is feeling, hurting, etc. My wife has always been my best friend. We met first when I was in the Navy, and she was 16. We didnt date then, but a couple of years later, we dated for the first time, and 11 weeks and 3 days later, we were married. Been together ever since.
My wife has been a trooper through my entire PC incident, don't have a single complaint. My adult age children have been there for their dad all the way.
I only hope that time and good memories will help to start to heal your broken heart. I couldn't imagine being in your situation, but of course, it could happen to anyone. I hope the healing process starts for you real soon, no matter how small or subtle it is at first. My very best to you, brother.
David in SC
Age 56, 56 at DX, PSA 7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5
3rd Biopsy Sept 08: Positive 7 of 7 cores, 40-90%, Gleason 7, 4+3
Open RP surgery 11/14/8, Right nerves spared, 4 days hospital, staples out 11/24/8, 5th cath out on 1/19/9
Post-surgery Pathlogy Report:Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c, 42 grm, tumor 20%, Contained in capsular, clear margins, clear lymph nodes
First PSA Post Surgery 2/9 .05, 6 month on 5/9