Welcome to those forums, and sorry to see you with this disease.
Here is my personal experience:
First consultation - urologist with ~300 DaVinci - he said he will have to remove both nerve bundles as my cancer was pretty advanced
Second consultation - urologist with ~1000 DaVinci - he said he might have to remove the nerve bundles on one side, but would definitely save the other side.
Third consultation with Dr Walsh, who has done over 4000
open surgeries - he said he will most probably keep both nerve bundles, but ultimately will decide during the surgery. The
open surgery gives him more "feel" for the extent of the cancer. At the end I went with Dr Walsh, he saved both bundles and I still had negative margins.
I think you should definitely look for a second opinion, hopefuly with an experienced surgeon that has done at least 1000 surgeries. If he still advises you to remove both nerve bundles, go for it you have so much to live for.
Age at DX: 43
PSA: 11/08:15.6, 01/09:16.6, 02/09:17.1
Biopsy 12/08 at USF Tampa
8/12 cores positive, GS 3+3,
perineural invasion in 2 cores
CT, Bone, XRay negative
03/04/09 - Open Surgery at Johns Hopkins by Dr Patrick Walsh
Path Report: GS 6, Tumor Contained, margin clears, nodes+vesicles clean
Both nerves spared,
Catheter Out: 03/18/09
Incontinence : Resolved from day one, cant believe it
ED : some signs of life
Diet : Vegetarian, No-meat, no dairy diet since 01/09