Well said in your post. It's been a personal slate of mine since the early 1980's, and an advocate for including depression and other mental illness related side effects related to other medical illnesses, surgeries, recoveries, etc. It's almost never spoken of about when one is treated. I am fortunate to have a good GP that has dealt with me for 13 plus years now that is in tune with that aspect of treatments. He's been there for me with the different maladies I have dealt with over the years, including 4 different bouts of cancer. I am the fortunate one there, so yes, men, talk to your doctor. There's nothing cool or macho about toughing out depression. Minor depression can lead to clinical depression, and then on to Major Depressive Disorder, and there is a thin, thin, line between them. Be your own advocate first, then if you have a spouse or significant other, include them, then filter it down to the rest of your family and friends. If they really love and care about you, they will stick by you and help you through the dark clouds of depression. I know this first hand, been there and done this several time, as recently as 18 months, and not doing anything at the time to help myself almost cost me my life, literally.
Depression can truly kill, and being a man doesn't make it any easier, it's the silent killer, the one where someone on the outside can't even see anything wrong with you.
David in SC
Age 56, 56 at DX, PSA 7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5
3rd Biopsy Sept 08: Positive 7 of 7 cores, 40-90%, Gleason 7, 4+3
Open RP surgery 11/14/8, Right nerves spared, 4 days hospital, staples out 11/24/8, 5th cath out on 1/19/9
Post-surgery Pathlogy Report:Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c, 42 grm, tumor 20%, Contained in capsular, clear margins, clear lymph nodes
First PSA Post Surgery 2/9 .05, 6 month on 5/9