I have to agree. The balance I try to strike on a place like this is that you do not let yourself get overwhelmed or too involved in issues that can arise. Also, make sure we are not taking care of others at the expense of ourselves.
I try to find guys on here with whom I can relate, or have a special bond. Call them up. Talk on the phone. If I am close, we go out for lunch. Keep it a support system - for both good times and bad. But if the site triggers fear, anxiety, or any negative feelings at all, it's time to take a break. I can't save the world and I don't have all the answers. All I can do is help a friend by listening and understanding the fear.
To that end - I have met a good friend in my PCa support group who told me that the average man in America has one best friend. it is his college roommate and he lives 1000 miles away. We have often talked about
how grateful we are that we were able to make a new friend with such a deep bond which has allowed us to discuss the most private aspects of our lives - and discover that all that embarrassment was for nothing.
Use this place to not only find PCa answers, but use to it find a friend and confidant as well. Even if it's just on the phone, you will discover it is worth the risk.
46 at Diagnosis.
Father died of Pca 4/07 at 86.
1/06 PSA 3.15
1/07 PSA 4.6 (Biopsy 3/07 just suspicious)
10/07 PSA 5.06 (Biopsy 11/07 1 of 12 with 8% involvment) (1mm)
Da Vinci surgery Jan 5, '08 at Mt. Sinai Hosp. NYC www.roboticoncology.com
Saved both nerve bundles.
Path Report: Stage T2cNxMx
-totally contained to prostate,
-10% involvement in L & R Mid lobes
PSA 0 at nine months.
Pad free on March 14 - (10 weeks.) Never a problem since.
ED - Took 100mg viagra every night. for several months
Totally usable erections at 10 weeks, which disappeared over the course of a month or two.
ED bounce is what they call it. Now, at one year, ED is fine with viagra.
One year PSA - undectable!