Nice post. I am about a month behind you, but I have come to the same conclusion. Too many times earlier in our 37 years of married life, it was about me and my O. I actually am enjoying these times worrying about her O. I get as big a kick over seeing her achieve the O, as I do over my own.
Go in for my 6 week check next week, and hopefully the start of E's for me with Viagara, pump, etc. But honestly, I hope for the rest of my life that I keep on focusing on her satisfaction over mine. But darm, I am horny, so I do need something here and there !