You've gotten some really good advice here already...a great site. What worked for me right after surgery was having a pair of PJ bottoms with string waist ties. Since my bottoms had waist elastics too, I cut up through the waist elastic and used only the ties. This allowed easy up and down for having a BM and cleaning of the catheter at the penis. Like some men, I pretty much stayed with the big bag the whole time. I used an old housecoat waist strap and big safety pin hung around my neck to hold the bag while I was mobile in the house (it kept the bag low enough to ensure proper drainage). I even rented a raised seat with handles for the toilet but never ended up needing it. Be careful around the house with anything that can snag the catheter, hose or bag.
A really important thing for me was the stool softeners and a fiber supplement to keep the bowel movements soft. Lots of fruit helped me too. The most discomfort I had after surgery was not from the incision or internal pain, it was gas and bloating discomfort when the bowels start working again (the anesthetics and pain meds can cause bad constipation)...I did not want to have too much strain having a BM.
I got a bed pillow with armrests that helped keep my head elevated a bit and keep me in one position and had no real problems sleeping. Before surgery, my wife and I put a plastic sheet under a sheet of foam on top of the mattress to catch any leaks. We tried just a plastic sheet under the bedsheet first, but that caused some discomfort due to sweating.
As mentioned already, everyone is a bit different after surgery and we had to improvise to find something that suited our situation.
Before my catheter came out, my wife went and bought diapers, bigs pads, little pads as we didn't know what to expect. It ended up that I was really lucky and didn't need much of anything. I use light-days feminine pads when I wear light colored pants...don't need them now, more insecurity than anything else.
My anxiety pre-surgery was through the roof. I was just plain scared and a (quiet) basket case. I didn't get a prescription for anything and maybe should have. If it helps in getting some good ZZZ's before surgery then ask your doc.
Hope this helps.
Lower left groin hernia:
mesh and large scar: surgery early 2006
Nov/Dec 07 and March 08 and now Dec 08: Severe perineal pain (between scrotum and rectum). Septra/Bactrim for 8 months (Nov 07-Jun 08) for diagnosed prostatitis.
PSA start of 2008: 5.3..... PSA June of 2008: 7.3
14 DRE all benign or nothing felt
TRUS Biopsy Nov 08: Got copy of pathology (see below). Prostate about 40 cm sq.
General Health: pretty good, 5' 10", 180 lbs, slim.
Bone scan Dec 08: Negative
Barium enema X-ray (March 09 due to several days of blood in stool)
MRI with endorectal coil (April 09 as part of a study)
3D advanced TRUS (April 09 as part of a study)
CT (April 09 as part of a study)
Biopsy Pathology: 5 of 8 cores positive, adenocarinoma in both lobes. 30%-65%. One core perineural invasion. 2 cores "foamy" and suspicious. All +ve cores, 3+3 GS 6.
Open RP surgery: May 5/09 Surgeon spoke to my wife and was very positive. Said both nerve bundles spared and not damaged. Bilateral lymph node dissection performed. Discharged 48 hours after surgery. Staples out, catheter out and pathology sheduled for May 21.
Physical State: Home office in basement. Up and down 10-20 times a day. Walking lots of circles around inside of house and back patio. Bit sore but coping very well so far.
Mental State: Pre-surgery anxiety gone. Now waiting for path report, cath removal and staples out.