I will go one step further, a person needs to be pro-active on anything that is medical related in their lives, and most certainly when dealing with PC or any other cancer.
In depth research and multiple opinions should be a requirement. Doctors, nurses, other medical staff are just as human as me and you. Mistakes are made, bad attitudes can adjust their thinking on a given day. Don't get me wrong, while under treatment, there is nothing worse than a non-compliant patient that thinks they know more then the experts. But that is another subject.
The bottom line, as far as being pro-active, it is your body, your life, your future, your family, your livelihood, your sex life, etc, etc. If you don't stand on the front lines for those things, you sure can't expect anyone else to give it as much attention.
And remember, the medical community is there to serve you, not the other way around. Make sure you have your questions in writing so that you won't get intimidated or flustered, some use a small voice recorder, whatever it takes. Don't end your appt. until all your questions have been asked and answered to your satisfaction. I ve seen mechanics with better bed manners than some doctors I have dealt with.
Act in your own behalf, at all times, and you just might make it.
David in SC
Age 56, 56 at DX, PSA 7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5
3rd Biopsy Sept 08: Positive 7 of 7 cores, 40-90%, Gleason 7, 4+3
Open RP surgery 11/14/8, Right nerves spared, 4 days hospital, staples out 11/24/8, 5th cath out on 1/19/9
Post-surgery Pathlogy Report:Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c, 42 grm, tumor 20%, Contained in capsular, clear margins, clear lymph nodes
First PSA Post Surgery 2/9 .05, 5/9 .10 doubled in 3 months, new test in six weeks, then possibly off for salvage radiation