And in some people's way of dealing with cancer, is they like the confidence of working with a good, experienced doctor that they trust, and they like to have a game plan that makes sense for them, they like to have good local medical facilities to be treated in, and they like knowing that they are being pro-active at their own level to start dealing with their own personal reality of having a cancer in their body.
Not everyone we run across here is interested in every technical aspect, every possible available treatment or theories about
future treatment. They have cancer, they are scared, they want to live, they want to act, and they want to feel like they have some say and control in the matter. And some people are just simply good at making quick decisions, where others take forever to decide the simplist of matters.
Once they decide, and some decide on their primary treatment quickly by choice, they find a certain level of relief.
It's most important that we support everyone's personal decision. It is not our place to question their intelligence, their motivations, etc. In our format here, we will never know the whole person we are dealing with, we don't fully know their full medical histories, their family histories, their threshold to pain, their generalized feelings about
medical care, their personal economic situations, and even the specifics of where they live and what medical facilities they have "real life" access to. There are so very many factors.
You are right to say, there are men that are more afraid of potential side affects then the means to get a cure. That is kind of the cart before the horse. Going into what was to be a non-nerve sparing
open surgery, I never ever expected to have "regular" sex again, my wife and I were ok with that, and with all that said, I didn't and still don't suffer from any evidence of ED, never had to use even a pump, or not a single sex pill. I know that I am in a tiny minority, but I didn't know that ahead of time.
Judging the fear of others is hard too, what scares me won't scare you. I told my dr. on the night of my dx., that I had no fear of surgery (having had many), but I was terrified of radiation due to a bad exprience with 35 days of radiation less then 10 years ago at the time, so for me, my own fear quickly limited my choice of treatment.
open vs. Robotic, easy to eliminate robotic for me, only 15 had been done in my area at the time, and I didn't want travel and logisitical problems for my loved ones, so that is how I went to
open. Our choices are often made and tempered by our current realities in our lives.
Best bet is to warmly welcome all here, to encourage all, to help abate their fears, and our own, and to support whatever choices are made by each individual man. That's my opinion.
David in SC
56, 56 at DX, PSA
7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5