I had 5 catheters removed over the period of 63 days, none of them hurt, none of them were yanked out, in fact, the various nurses involved seemed very sensitive to the task, and knew that I was scared to death. On my very last cath, my dr/surgeon removed it in a different manner, he had me stand up. He release the fluid in the balloon, and without him touching a thing, the nasty cath just dropped out from between my legs like a snake to the floor below. Gravity did the trick.
The only technical problem I ever heard from talking to the nurses, was they have to allow a moment or two after the balloon is deflated before they start the cath removal. If it is not fully deflated, of course it would meet resistence and cause pain.
Sorry you had to experience such pain.
Age 56, 56 at DX, PSA 7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5
3rd Biopsy Sept 08: Positive 7 of 7 cores, 40-90%, Gleason 7, 4+3
Open RP surgery 11/14/8, Right nerves spared, 4 days hospital, staples out 11/24/8, 5th cath out on 1/19/9
Post-surgery Pathlogy Report:Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c, 42 grm, tumor 20%, Contained in capsular, clear margins, clear lymph nodes
First PSA Post Surgery 2/9 .05, 5/9 .10, 6/9 .11, July 13 - meet with radiation oncologist