And let me give another opinion and perspective. I am coming up on 9 months from surgery, and 7 months from when I was released from being on a catheter for over 2 months. I am in the ultra rare club of having no ED from the moment the last cathater was out, and that is with one nerve bundle being removed and the other being damaged.
My ograsms are dry, as expected. That took me a bout a month to get use to. You just have to get that out of your head if you are capable of having sex. Over the months, the orgasms just keep getting stronger, longer in duration, and deeper in feeling. My last one, now over 2 weeks ago because (now I am another catheter again) was the strongest one yet. I never have felt such intense pleasure feelings. And the orgasms last I would guess 2 - 3 times longer then the best pre-surgery. I also get a good amount of pre-semen dribbling out the tip when its over, which they tell me my cowpens or is it cowpers gland must still be working.
The are other men here that report similar orgasm stories like mine, so I don't think I am a freak. I never expected to have "normal" sex again, and I thought the dry orgasms would be a waste of time, but each time we make love, it just seems to get better, and that's at 9 months out.
What is different, is that I have lost all ability to get an errection by visual means or just by thinking dirty thoughts. It does take the physical touch and/or cuddling up with that good looking red headed wife of mine. Then, its boing, and ready to play.
The hard part is re-training your mind about
no more ejaculations. You have to accept that the source of your pleasure/orgasm has nothing to do with haveing a load to semen to release. Yes, it's hard to disassociate the two, but you need to learn that. Lay back and just let the good and positive feelings take over your mind. It's wonderful not to have a mess to deal with afterward, my wife enjoys that part, and you can do it in more places where you normally wouldn't want to have a mess if you follow my drift.
Going back to the start of your post, if you can have sex and climax at all, you may need to review your priorities in life. There are dozens of our brothers here that would do anything to experience again what you have right now. Not lecturing you, more like reminding you. I am thankful everyday for what I still have, not what I don't have.
David in SC
57, 56 at DX, PSA
7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5
3rd Biopsy Sept 08: Positive 7 of 7 cores, 40-90%, Gleason 7, 4+3
Open RP surgery 11/14/8, Right nerves spared, 4 days hospital, staples out 11/24/8, 5th cath out on 1/19/9
Pathlogy Report:Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c, 42 grm, tumor 20%, Contained in capsule, one post. margin, clear lymph nodes
2009 PSA 2/9 .05, 5/9 .10, 6/9 .11, 8/11 ?
Lastest 7/13 met with Rad. Oncl, considering options, 7/20 Catheter #6 after complete blockage, scarring closed up bladder neck, again