In the time I've been a member here, I've never visited another illness group. But, if I log in through the home page I notice the recent posts to all forums on the right hand side. One there tonight says: anxiety; my teenage daughter is having SEX! There's a notice about ostomy bags. A post on mental illness. While I am acutely aware that many here are facing challenges larger than I at this time (and that I may well be in their shoes in the future) nevertheless this scan of topics again helped me put my perineum ache/pain into perspective. I'm glad I don't have teenagers, an ostomy, or mental illness in the immediate family to cope with.
In another thread David and I discussed how some of us deal with PCa by saying we're lucky to have 'the good one,' while others deal with PCa by being more realistic and aware that there is nothing good, and much horrible, about PCa. Both are legitimate coping strategies as far as I'm concerned, and I find myself flopping back and forth. My public face to friends, family and co-workers, tends to be in the positive spin ain't I lucky camp. My own self talk tends to be more in the realistic camp but levened by telling myself, no matter what, I'll handle it.
In yet another thread Worried Guy talked about using humor to cope. I think he said it was better to laugh than cry. I can identify with that. If I can laugh, especially at myself, it makes bad things better. It's hard to be upset about pain in a swollen scrotum while laughing about the thought of streaking a football game. "The purple nut bag hits again," would read the headline.
So, what's all this about? I don't know, except we all seem to have our own way of coping with PCa and each is a valid for that person. David, Dale, Worried Guy, geezer, Amy, Bob, Tony, Siewife, Bob D, Ed C, Colin, James C, possum, and all the rst of you, approach coping from their own unique perspective. While I continue to cope in my own way, I thank all for sharing their perspective on PCa. Not only is each interesting, each makes my own journey a little bit easier.
Sheldon AKA Sleepless
Age 67 in Apil '09 at news of 4 of 12 cores positive T2B and Gleason 3 + 3 and 5% to 25% PSA 1.5
Re-read of slides in June said Gleason 3 + 4 same four cores 5% to 15%
June 29 daVinci prostatectomy, Dr. Eric Estey, at Royal Alexandra Hospital Edmonton one night stay
Flew home to Winnipeg on July 3 after 5 nights in Ramada Inn --- perfect recovery spot!
Catheter out July 9, so far, so good
Final pathology is 3 + 4 Gleason 7, clear margins, clear nodes, T2C, sugeron says report is "excellent"