Sailor, never make apologies about pain. Every one has a different level of tolerance, and pain is a very subjective thing. I had open surgery, and it was rough for pain the whole 4 days I was in the hospital, abated some the first week at home, then progressively lessened over time.
The constipation issue, use lots of stool softeners, only use real laxatives on your doctors advise, that is what I was told.
The pressure on the catheter end, if it gets bad, ask for some ditropan, generic drug, cheap, will help ease that pressure feeling up there from the cath, and help if you have experienced any bladder spasms.
You are almost halfway through the 14 days, I know its tough, but it will help you heal better, sure that is what your doctor is thinking. If it makes you hurt any less, I was on one for 63 days after surgery. Long story.
Hope you feel better brother, when you get your pathology report from the surgery and its good and clean, the pain will be worth it to you.
Use your pain meds as needed, it will help your body heal faster and with less stress.
David in SC
Age 57, 56 at DX, PSA 7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5
3rd Biopsy Sept 08: Positive 7 of 7 cores, 40-90%, Gleason 7, 4+3
Open RP surgery 11/14/8, Right nerves spared, 4 days hospital, staples out 11/24/8, 5th cath out on 1/19/9
Pathlogy Report:Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c, 42 grm, tumor 20%, Contained in capsule, one post. margin, clear lymph nodes
2009 PSA 2/9 .05, 5/9 .10, 6/9 .11, 8/9 .16
Lastest 7/13 met with Rad. Oncl, considering options, 7/20 Catheter #6 after complete blockage, scarring closed up bladder neck, corrective laser surgery scheduled for 8/18,
meeting with Rad. Oncl on 8/14 about lastest PSA