WHM- I am also around your age , I am also 8 mnths out of Surgery, I have a gleason of 7, had nerve sparing op, by a well respect surgeon in Australia. I have been usinig meds everyday as prescribed, I have not yet tried injections. I have tried vac pump, by did not get on with it at all. I was becoming pretty depressed also, and I know that feeling of uselessness and the upset and disappointment on the wife face. I too had nearly given up, but then one night last week, my wife and I got close for our usuall tickle etc, and
'BINGO *###* , I had my first erection since surgery, it was about 90% and certainly good enough to do the job.
We were obviously both over the moon about the event ,and now waiting for the second opportunity, which we both agreed, we would not rush.
I believe this happened because we decided some weeks ago, to stop worrying about the ED, and get on with life.
As the saying goes, the more you chase a butterfly the more it will avoid you, but if you just stand still, it will come and land gently upon your shoulder.
My suggestion to you would be just relax, forget about the ED, and just reflect on how lucky you are to be alive and to be with your loving family.
.................Kev [ignor my forum name, thinking of changing it soon to maybe "STUD" lol]