Steve, a sad story to read this Sunday morning. My heart goes out for you directily and of course for your dad. Let me ask you an important legal question. Does he have a medical power of attorney agreement in place? If so, are you his designated choice. If no, you should print off info off the computer or most doctor's offices have blank forms, and discuss the subject with him. If so, then you might need to start taking control of his situation on his behalf, for his own good.
Right now, and assuming he has no such document in place, he can do or not do as he pleases (and trust me, I am all about
freedom and right of choice, etc). But in his fragile and deteriorating medical conditon, if he's not going to do the right things, or is in capable mentally or emotionally, or even because of clinical depression, then someone needs to be his personal advocate and make sure that he is getting all the care he obviously needs.
You poor father probably is suffering from deep or clinical depression, from the reaction to everyday things like you described. No, not pretending to be a doctor.
I am thankful that he has a son like you that cares enough to reach out for help for him. I know its got to be eating you up to seem him this way and acting in these odd manners.
Please think about
what I said, and post back sooner.
David in SC
57, 56 at DX, PSA
7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3,9/8 14.5
3rd Biopsy Sept 08: Positive 7 of 7 cores, 40-90%, Gleason 7, 4+3
Open RP surgery 11/14/8, Right nerves spared, 4 days hospital, staples out 11/24/8, 5th cath out on 1/19/9
Pathlogy Report:Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c, 42 grm, tumor 20%, Contained in capsule, one post. margin, clear lymph nodes
2009 PSA 2/9 .05, 5/9 .10, 6/9 .11, 8/9 .16
Lastest 7/13 met with Rad. Oncl, considering options, 7/20 Catheter #6 after complete blockage, 8/14 met with Rad Oncl, 8/18 - laser scope surgery to clear blockage, now on Cath #7, 8/26 - cath removed