It sounds like you've had a pretty rough road so far but there is some light ahead hopefully. There are a few drugs in the pipeline that hold great promise for guys at your stage. Arbiterone is about a year away from being accepted and is in the last phase of clinical trials. It has done wonders fro some individuals.
There used to be a guy who posted on this forum that was about the same stage as you, he thought the next step would be chemo but went down to M.D. Anderson and they found him a clinical trial that he has had good response to. I've lost contact with him over the last few months but you might want to look that direction(clinical trials). His trial did consist of some taxotere but he said it was very easy for him to handle. I don't know who you are seeing as an onc. but hopefully it's somenone well versed in Porstate specific stuff.
Keep the faith.
Biopsy- 12 cores, 4 positive highest 4+4=8
Bone scan, CT scan and Chest X-ray clear 4/16/08
Urologist suggested surgery 4/16/08
MRI on 4/24/08 clear no suggestion of lymph node involvement.
4/24/08 -Started on Lupron and Casodex preparing for HDRT and IMRT in late July. This treatment will not preclude me from surgery if I change my mind.
Decide to have DaVinci surgery after another consult with surgeon.
6/19/08- DaVinci surgery at University of Washington.
6/25/08- Path report, clear margins, no noted extension
9/12/08- PSA <0.02
12/05/08-PSA <0.02 Six months after surgery
3/02/09-PSA <0.02 Nine months after surgery
8/17/09-PSA .21 Begin HT and set up for SRT to begin in 2 months.