Sonny, as you know, my doctor(s) experience so far pretty well mirrors yours. Mine were well informed in all the common patient concerns about prostate surger, we discussed everything openly and bluntly including incontinence, ED, penile shrinkage, etc.
But in fairness to some of our brothers, some men just aren't use to or comfortable in medical situation. For some, it may be their first major medical crisis. Some men tend to be denialists concerning their health issues, where women are prone to be more concerned and open.
Even men have to accept the responsibility that the health of their body is their business, and they need to become knowledgable and pro-active in their own care and decisions.
The doctors I have personally worked with over the years, all love an informed patient. It makes their job easier, saves time, and only you know how you feel inside, so tell the doctor exactly that.
End of speech.
David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sessions/72 gys.