Even tho I am not always concious of it, I know I have changed since I had my surgery. I feell sorry for myself, I am a little more selfish at times, I am short tempered at times, and many other things I am not aware of.
My wife needs to feel a certain way about
herself, and her importance to me, and her importance as a woman. Sometimes my changed feelings are in the way of these feelings she needs.
If I were to persist in some of these actions, I would probably be replaced as well.
However, as has been pointed out, it is not uncommon for 50 some year old women to look for something different at this stage of their lives. Sex with someone else is always more exciting, whether you use injections, or are a a stud, the newness of the situation, the romantic words, etc, make it more fun.
I think many men with PC are at a higher risk of having our wives find someone more manly than we are, but on the other hand, if we pay attention to our wives, and treat them like the inmportant figures they are in our lives, we will be able to keep them, because of the love we share.
I really think you need to stop beating up yourself, and much the way you have dealt with cancer, deal with this obstacle in your life and move on. Yes, it hurts, but that too will pass. As Worried Guy has pointed out, there are many women out there who will gladly take up where your ex left off.
You've conquered PC, you can conquer this too !
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks due to anatomical issues with location of ureters with respect to bladder neck. Try 3 tubes where no tubes are supposed to be for 2 weeks !
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)