Your husband’s case is a tough one, but don’t give up hope. As others have said, chemo can work and new drugs are becoming available.
You raise the question; “was the cancer was ever under control?” That is the unanswerable question which hangs over every one of us here and the answer is that we will never know until we die of something else. It is simply beyond the bounds of medical science to ever be certain. All of us go from PSA test to PSA test carrying that nugget of dread.
You speak of fear and anger. We have known these too, and we struggle against them. Not only do they weaken our bodies, they poison our lives. On the basis of personal experience I strongly recommend professional therapy. These feelings often stem from depression which is not a moral weakness but a chemical imbalance in the brain. If professional therapy is not accessible to you, then look for a PC group of a cancer survivors group – often run through a church or civic organization.
I know that you are in pain and so I ask you to forgive me when I speak very forthrightly. You say; “He says things I just don't know how to react to or if I should react. I am scared like he is, but I don't know what to say to him” This is a symptom far worse than the outcome of any medical test because it means that this Cancer is forcing a separation between two people who love each other. None of us know what our lives hold or for how long. All we can do is live what we have in the best possible way.
Age at diagnosis 66, PSA 5.5
Biopsy 12/08 12 cores, 8 positive
CAT scan, Bone scan 1/09 both negative.
Robotic surgery 03/03/09 Catheter Out 03/08/09
Pathology: Lymph nodes & Seminal vesicles negative
Margins positive, Capsular penetration extensive Gleason 4+3=7
6 weeks: 1 pad/day, 1 pad/night -- mostly dry at night.
10 weeks: no pad at night -- slight leakage day/1 pad.
3 mo. PSA 0.0 - now light pads
6 mo. PSA 0.00 -- 1 light pad/day
Post Edited (geezer99) : 11/4/2009 2:05:37 PM (GMT-7)