Yup this PCa (and HW) certainly makes you realise that in order to help us cope with all the (unexpected) problems that crop up you definitely have to make the decison to ask questions , and to do so without much hesitation or embarrassment, as well as to talk to people about matters that were hitherto rather private. By way of an example of what I mean I'll quote from an email from a female friend of mine (whose husband has just finished radio and hormone therapy after a prostatectemy failed to get everything).
"I can't believe I'm writing about this, but there you go! Cancer leads you where you never thought you'd go."
Age at Dx 48 No Family history of Prostate Cancer
Married 25 years, and I cannot thank my wife enough for her support.
April 2009: PSA 8.6 DRE: negative. Tumour in 2 out of 12 cores. Gleason 3+3.
RALP (nerve-sparing) at AVL-NKI Hospital Amsterdam on 29th July 2009. Stay 1 night.
Partial erections on 1st and 2nd Aug 2009, Catheter out on 6th Aug 2009.
Dry at night, but wearing pads 24/7
Post-op Gleason 3+4. Seminal Vesicles invaded, but otherwise negative margins,
Erection 100% on 15th Aug 2009 Stopped wearing pads on 21st Sept 2009
Pre-op style intercourse on 24th Oct 2009 !! No use of tablets, jabs, VED etc.