Glad you found some doctors you could trust and believe in.
Now that your have made the big decision, I would recommend spending the next month in personal preparation, that is, between you and your husband. Double and triple up your intimate times, maybe spend a weekend or two away, and just share the good times.
Even tho the DaVinci is a great advance in surgery, and most likely within a couple of weeks your husband will feel pretty good, life will be different for a while. After the catheter, you will be getting the incontinence and ED under control. It could take as long as a year to really be close to pre-surgery levels. This time can be a challenge because your husband will have a variety of emotions that can make him a little unpredictable. There is definitley post surgical stress. Obviously your understanding and loving during this time will be important.
That is why I recommend some real special times beforehand so that you both have something to draw on in the coming months.
Best of luck to both of you, and stay in touch with HW. We all want to be here for you guys.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injections