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Tony Crispino
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   Posted 11/16/2009 11:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Over the last weekend it looks like we had need for moderator intervention in our forum. The one problem was the moderators were only partially available. For my part I just took a weekend off. I needed to get things done at home and they took priority. I later found out the James C was also preoccupied with a family emergency. And I don't want to announce anything for Doting Daughter, so I will leave her 7 pound new arrival out of it (but I've seen the pics and what a beautiful, er, I mean I know nothing, just ignore me)

Prostate Cancer Forum Moderators:
James C
Doting Daughter
TC-LasVegas

Also, Forum Moderators in other Forums can be reached in such cases where the regulars are not available. If they intervene it is usually to delete spamming posts, but they can in some cases carry Forum Moderator capabilities across forums. Not all can, but most can. Thanks for understanding...
Prostate Cancer Forum Co-Moderator


Purgatory
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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 25380
   Posted 11/17/2009 8:37 AM (GMT -6)   
Tony, you moderators are as human as the rest of us, there are times that you guys can't be here for any number of reasons. I am afraid what took place last weekend would have ignited even if all of you had been there. My only comment is that there needs to be strict enforcement of the basic forumn rules concerning the flaming, humiliation, or degrading of a fellow poster. I think it would set a good example that even our new friends would understand. That HW is an open place, but a civil place. Just my opinion.

Glad you are back, and hoping Jame's mom will be ok. I still deal with my 82 year old mom, who lives alone by choice and very independent, which isn't always a good thing, lol.

David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Post Surgery  PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out  38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped  9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys cath #8 33 days, 11/2- SP Cath #9 in place


goodlife
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Date Joined May 2009
Total Posts : 2691
   Posted 11/17/2009 8:45 AM (GMT -6)   
I. maybe more than anyone find it hard to back down when I think someone is insulting me, speaking ill of me, or talking trash.

But, most of us can see where a thread is heading, long before it gets there. We can police ourselves by just choosing to ignore a thread, and walking away. The other alternative is to "take it outside" and use e-mail.

This is a forum of guys, who are hurting physically and emotionally, and who aren't always in the best humor. The car battery we are balancing on our shoulders gets knocked off quite easily. If all of us (myself especially ) just remember that, I think we could save Tony, James, and Doting D some unpleasant work by just walking away.

Thanks to our moderators for all the thankless tasks they do !
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic  4/14/09   Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved  pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free  6 week PSA  <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED.  Trimix injections


Steve n Dallas
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Date Joined Mar 2008
Total Posts : 4829
   Posted 11/17/2009 9:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Its a shame we need moderators here considering the AGE of the members...
 
At the bottom of each page is a Who's Online section where you can look for the moderatos of the Prostate section...
 
Or you can view the list of moderators and compare it to the Who's Online to find someone else..
 
List Of Moderators:

Worried Guy
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Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 3732
   Posted 11/17/2009 10:04 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh Goodlife, "The car battery we are balancing on our shoulders gets knocked off quite easily." Perfect description. May I quote you? Jeff

about 25 years ago, I suffered a near fatal anaphylactic episode:CPR, flat line for 45 seconds, crushed xyphoid - the whole bit. I still have the traces. Anywhoo... one of the great things after the event was, I got to take interesting drugs- legally!
One particular inhaler for breathing had a very interesting side effect. It would instantly turn everyone else into absolute morons! I could be having a pleasant conversation with someone one minute, use the inhaler, and then find that person to be a painful bore. It took me about three days to figure out that 100% correlation. Even though I knew it was the drugs, I could not help but think the other person was an idiot.
I controlled myself by saying two rules to myself:
...1) "Only a fool argues with a fool."
...2) "Gotch ya' last is a game for 5 year olds."
It must have worked as I never got slugged and I am still married to the same woman.
Jeff

Thanks Moderators for taking time out of your busy day.
DX Age 56. First routine PSA test on April 8th: 17.8.
May PSA: 22.6, 3 weeks later: PSA: 23.2.
Biopsy 6/10/09: 7/12 scores positive, Gleason 6=3+3. Bone scan and C/T scan negative.
RP DaVinci -7/21/2009 @ Univ of Roch Medical Center
Left nerve gone, right partial spared.
Catheter removed - 7/31/2009 Pathology report received:
Gleason 3+4=7 Tumor size: 2.5 x 1.8 cm location: both lobes and apex. No Malignancy in Seminal Vesicle, vasa deferentia, lymph nodes 0/13
Extraprostatic extension present; Perineural invasion: present, extensive
Prostate mass 56 grams. Pathologic Stage: pT3aN0MX
Post Surgery Status:
Potency - 10/31 3 months, Still no activity, nada, zip
Incontinence - 8/20 4 full pads per day
. 9/7 3-4 full pads per day (I'm going to try cutting down on fluids. Bad idea. I know.)
9/27 2 months: Still 3 pads per day.
11/14 4 month: Still 3 pads per day. 420ml/day, 91 um leak. At this rate I'll be fine in 2012.
Post Surgery PSA - 9/3 6 weeks- 0.05, 10/13 3 months- 0.04 undetectable.


MMMNAVY
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Date Joined Jul 2006
Total Posts : 6927
   Posted 11/17/2009 10:13 AM (GMT -6)   
I am not a moderator for this forum, but I am able to help and generally am on at least once a day.
Forum Co-moderator - Crohn's Disease/Thyroid Disorders:_All comments have the caveat contact your local health care provider.

I will find a way or make one. –Phillip Sidney 1554-1586

All that I am and all that I shall ever be, I owe to my Angel Mother.

The Bucket List- Have you found joy in your life?  Has your life brought joy to others?

Make sure your suffering has meaning…


defender3
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Date Joined Nov 2009
Total Posts : 98
   Posted 11/17/2009 10:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Do the moderators ever ban people from the forum by blocking IPs?

Tony Crispino
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Date Joined Dec 2006
Total Posts : 8128
   Posted 11/17/2009 11:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Moderators do not ban members at HealingWell.  We do have the ability to edit or delete posts, but we don't even like that ability except when the board is being spammed.   Typically we would make recommendations but ultimately it is an Administrator function to delete a member login.  It is possible to use IP addresses to deny access, but again it is very seldom that this drastic of an action is warranted. 
 
Tony
Prostate Cancer Forum Co-Moderator


Purgatory
Elite Member


Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 25380
   Posted 11/17/2009 12:18 PM (GMT -6)   
So Tony, if that is the case, how do you enforce the forumn rules that are established and agreed upon when one joins HW? Particularly when a member is flaming, abusing, mocking, and humiliating another member openly?

David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Post Surgery  PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out  38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped  9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys cath #8 33 days, 11/2- SP Cath #9 in place


Tony Crispino
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Date Joined Dec 2006
Total Posts : 8128
   Posted 11/17/2009 12:43 PM (GMT -6)   
We can edit violations if they are clear cut, but we do it reluctantly. We also attempt to contact offending posters through Email and ask if they can revisit their post and have the opportunity to make their own corrections. We fully understand that knee jerk reactions happen, and we are hopeful that when more thought is given that an offending poster will take heart and make sensible adjustments. If it get's to be uncontrrollable then we meet as a group, and if our efforts bring about a peaceful resolution, then we will take stronger actions that include recommending suspention or membership revokation. Even still we leave the door open for renewal of account status to a remorseful and contrite offender.

One thing I can tell you is that the folks here, remain here for support and truly need what this forum offers. HealingWell is so much above the alternatives out there. At least that is my opinion. We will try to do anything we can to not deprive anybody the opportunity to take advantage of this wonderful website.

LOL, but we do have rules. Repeat offenders are indeed challenging at times. We reserve the need to uphold the peace here foremost.

Tony
Prostate Cancer Forum Co-Moderator


Doting Daughter
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 1064
   Posted 11/17/2009 9:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Tony! Yes, I have a new bouncing baby girl that has been occupying my lap and time. Thanks for posting and thanks for the non-announcement :)
My hands and heart are definitely full! As we discussed, I do not have the time that I once did, but am hoping peace will prevail in the forum and am still here for whoever needs me!

DD
Father's Age DX 62 (now 64)
Original Gleason 3+4=7, Post-Op Gleason- 4+3=7,
DaVinci Surgery Aug 31, 2007
Focally Positive Right Margin, One positive node. T3a N1 M0.
Bone Scan/CT Negative (Sept. 10, 2007)
Oct. 17 PSA 0.07
Nov. 13 PSA 0.05
Casodex adm. Nov 07, Lupron beg. Dec 03, 2007 2 yrs
Radiation March 03-April 22, 2008- 8 weeks 5x a week
July 2, 08 PSA <.02
Oct. 10, 08 PSA <.02
Oct. 9, 09 PSA <.01 Last Lupron Shot
Praying for a cured dad.

Co-Moderator Prostate Cancer Forum


goodlife
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Date Joined May 2009
Total Posts : 2691
   Posted 11/17/2009 9:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Doting D

Congratulations on the new life ! I hope she will be as caring and generous with her time as her mother, but won't have to worry about her Dad and PC.

Goodlife
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic  4/14/09   Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved  pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free  6 week PSA  <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED.  Trimix injections


Purgatory
Elite Member


Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 25380
   Posted 11/17/2009 10:36 PM (GMT -6)   
DD,

Congrats on your new baby. Nice to hear about some new life around here. I read Tony's hint this morning, and started a thread for you, then retracted it, because I thought mabe I shouldn't have posted it.

Hope mom and baby are fine.

David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence:  1 Month     ED:  Non issue at any point post surgery
Post Surgery  PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out  38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped  9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys cath #8 33 days, 11/2- SP Cath #9 in place


Red Nighthawk
Regular Member


Date Joined Oct 2009
Total Posts : 289
   Posted 11/18/2009 10:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Doting D,
I am kind of new around here and I didn't realize you were even present as a mod. Thank you for your help with that kind of service, but more importantly, congratulations on your new baby.
Age: 62
Pre-op PSA: 4.1
Gleason grade: 3+4=7, present in both lobes, at least 1.1 cm, and occupying less than 5% of prostate by volume. pT2c NX MX
No lymphatic/vascular invasion present.
Seminal vesicles and extraprostatic soft tissue free of tumor.
Inked margins are free of tumor.
High grade prostatic intraepithelial neoplasia is present
Robotic RP: Sept. 15th, 2009 1 day in hospital, cath out on 9th day
Post-op PSA: at 4 weeks --> .04 (undetectable)
One pad for the first six weeks. Two pairs of underpants now just to play it safe.
Surgery: Brigham & Women's Hospital, Boston


JoeyG
Regular Member


Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 162
   Posted 11/18/2009 12:10 PM (GMT -6)   
I come on here, as well as a couple other boards occasionally and I must say from what I've seen, the mod's should have a relatively easy job because there is a lot of respect for one another. I also appreciate that we can be quite candid, without being censured (ie when we discuss very personal stuff).
 
I did not see the posts that caused the issues. However, I would hope that the individual that went too far would be man enough to apologize and to join us as he may need the same support that all of us need.
Age -57; Diagnosed 10/05 PSA 13.4 GS 9 Organ confined (T2B)
Cryoablation 4/06 Allegheny Hosp-Dr Ralph Miller (Cohen/Miller)
Post Cryo Nadir 8/06 0.2
Rising steadily to 0.7 4/09 :-(
Steady at 0.7 (7/09) (Pomegranate???)
Looking to take next steps soon
Hoping to qualify for salvage cryo or radiation


Doting Daughter
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 1064
   Posted 11/18/2009 5:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you David, Goodlife and Red-
I really appreciate your well wishes!!!
Father's Age DX 62 (now 64)
Original Gleason 3+4=7, Post-Op Gleason- 4+3=7,
DaVinci Surgery Aug 31, 2007
Focally Positive Right Margin, One positive node. T3a N1 M0.
Bone Scan/CT Negative (Sept. 10, 2007)
Oct. 17 PSA 0.07
Nov. 13 PSA 0.05
Casodex adm. Nov 07, Lupron beg. Dec 03, 2007 2 yrs
Radiation March 03-April 22, 2008- 8 weeks 5x a week
July 2, 08 PSA <.02
Oct. 10, 08 PSA <.02
Oct. 9, 09 PSA <.01 Last Lupron Shot
Praying for a cured dad.

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