Sheldon, I agree with the general sentiments of what you say here, pretty good portrayal of how a lot of the thought process and emotions fit into this world of PC we are in.
However, there are hard lines that get crossed, and unless a poster is firmly rebuked, it just goes on and on.
That's why there are posted rules here at HW, and most forumns. We agree to abide by those rules when we joined.
Recently (and I want to stress to anyone reading this, that it was not Sheldon) when I was being called a "sissy girl for complaining about going through salvage radiation", among other insults. That crossed the line of decency.
What a terrible thing to say to any brother here going through treatments and procedures. We each have our own trials and battles, our pains and our sorrows, our victories and defeats with PC. I thought the whole idea was to support each other and encourage each other.
To the person that said that and much more to me over the weekend, you did serious damage. Words can and do hurt, contrary to popular opinion.
In my fight, going through salvage radiation has been a big deal. I knew it ahead of time, I knew it from going thorugh 35 rounds of neck/throat radiation in the past. I am also going through it while dealing with a long term SP catheter, which complicates the whole radiation process. So on a night when I had bloody catheter bags, back to back bladder spasms all day long, combined with the normal nausea, fatigue, and soreness associated with completing the first 30 sessions of radiation, yeah, it hurt to be equated that way. And it was an insult to every woman that posts on our board.
What was the solution, all the posts were simply censorsed and deleted. That makes the guilty look innocent and the innocent look quilty one and the same.
I found what happened to be entirely cruel and cold, can't imagine anyone going through what any of go through here in our PC journeys to have to suffer that kind of indignity. And to top it all off, they get away with it, once again.
I have said my peace, won't add another word to it. If this is justice at HW, then I don't need HW anymore, my purposes have ended.
All I am asking is for the agreed upon rules to be enforced.
David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys cath #8 33 days, 11/2- SP Cath #9 in place