It's hard to tell a man who wants an erection NOW ! to be patient, but really, we don't have a lot of choice. Especially with the pain, he needs to give it a rest until the body finishes healing.
I know he may be despondent, and this may not help, but it may take up to a year according to most experts, and many guys on this site. Just count every day less than a year a blessing if he gets function back to "normal'.
Just be there for him, insure him that you love him, no matter what his ED is doing. Holding, snuggling, petting, all make him feel as tho he is not letting you down because he can't perform.
Good luck on your journey together !
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injections