Our partners have been a very important part of our recoveries and I commend you for reaching out on behalf of your partner. Regarding the pain, remember that he had a significant and difficult surgical procedure that will take months to recover from. There was alot more cutting, splicing and sewing inside than appears on the outside. If it is continuous pain he should definitely talk to his Doc. Regarding ED, it is more common than not. Recovery takes a while and many here have taken a year or more. If your partner thought that he was simply going to bounce back after this procedure, he could use an adjustment in expectations. One day at a time is what we all say and he needs to focus on recovering from surgery first.
Age 55, two teens, very fit cyclist (avg 2000+ miles per year) and weight, diet, etc. consistent with good habits. Stressful job as attorney; very supporting wife who is helping me through every stage of this war.
2006 PSA - 1.5
2007 PSA - 2.3
2008 PSA - 5.3 (18 mos.)
2009 Jan. 20 - Biopsy 12 samples
Feb 3 Dx 2/12 samples positive, low volume (5% and 7-10%)
Gleason 3+4, later downgraded by second opinion at Johns-Hopkins to 3+3, but "it's still PCa" as my Doc said.
Laproscopic surgery April 9, University of KY Medical Center, Lexington, 3 days in hospital, catheter removal April 21.
Pathology: clear margins, no cancer in prostate: told that this is very rare and Doc has only seen it in 3 out of over 1400 cases; I rearched the concept of "vanishing cancer" and found a tumor classification of tP0 and asked Doc if it applied to me. He said that it was unlikely because if a pathologist had done a much more detailed analysis of the tissue, he would likely find more foci somewhere, and biopsy found "needle in the haystack as opposed to the tip of the iceberg"; Nevertheless, it is a blessing;
Regardless of the science, my family says "miracle."
Now working w/ post-surgery issues....