Reedy, welcome to our brotherhood here at HW Prostate Cancer. From reading your signature, you are a new member by default.
I too had open surgery a year ago. The pain you describe in the area you describe is 100% normal and to be expected. You are only some 6 weeks or so from a very major surgery. In my case, that type of pain for me lasted at the least the first 6 months after surgery, though it was worse the first 2 months.
Are you able to walk some? This is the time in your healing cycle to listen to your body. Excercise and walking are great, but don't overdo it. If you need pain meds, no shame there, use them as your doctor directs you to. Pain that isn't being controlled will retard your healing process.
On the incontinence part, sounds about normal. Many men go dry at night first, then make systematic progress on the daytime part, but again you are pretty soon out of surgery.
ED, be happy for the fleeting moments, that may be a good sign for later, but way to early to worry about that.
THis is your time to heal, follow your doctor's directions to the letter. The pains should subside over time, so that will take some patience.
Good luck to you.
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence: 1 Month ED: Non issue at any point post surgery
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys cath #8 33 days, 11/2- SP Cath #9 in place