When I first started VED'ing, I would get some leakage in my pump, but it got better as time progressed. I think part of it was that I would try not to let it leak, so I had a little test lab environment where I could see if my pucker was working.
Occasionally I will skip a day or 2 based on time schedule, etc. I haven't seen any noticeable change in my leakage when not VED'ing.
I am concerned with your comments about not being able to kegel when standing up. That is precisely when you need the kegel control. I know I have mentioned it before, but there are some $50 type devices out there that allow you to monitor the pressure you are exerting, and I believe may help you on this kegel thing. I also found that there are several sites with different types of kegel techniques. The one Jennifer talks about is the Cleveland Clinic one. I just couldn't do it that way and work also.
Just my 2 cents worth buddy. I don't know of a more diligent guy on this site regarding incontinence. I just want to insure that you are squeezing what needs to be squeezed. I think the little monitor might help the engineer side of you.
Keep on puckering my friend !
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injections