Started having sex again about 70-75 days after my open surgery, mostly delayed by prolonged catheter time. It took a while to get use to the "dry" as opposed to the "wet". But my take on that, it was all in my mind, and I had to just flat out accept that it would never ever be the "old" way again. At a little more than a year out, I don't miss the "wet" part nor ever think about it.
Orgasms after surgery s tarted out weak and distant to me. But within the first month being sexual again, they grew both in duration and intensity. I can honestly say that it is a deeper feeling than at any point in my life prior to surgery. It is different, for sure, but it is very good. Seems to satisify my sex drive better, more now of less often, but better when I do.
Right now, post SRT, I am still too very sore in my entire abdomen and penis areas to even want to have sex. The thought is there, and perhaps the nature desire, but if I even begin to become errect, or have too much of an erotic thought, it hurts.
As soon as I recover and heal from the radiation, I am hoping to get back into the game.
I think you will find quite a variety of answers on this subject from the guys, and of course, we are talking about a very personal and subjective area.
No matter to what degree you can eliminate ED after treatments and/or surgery, the hardest part is accepting the fact, that no matter how good it is now, it will never, ever be the way it use to be. That part is harder for some to accept than others. Unfortunately, that is what comes with a dx and treatment of PC.
David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence: 1 Month ED: Non issue at any point post surgery
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys cath #8 33 days, 11/2- SP Cath #9 in place