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Date Joined Dec 2009
Total Posts : 97
   Posted 12/5/2009 10:29 AM (GMT -6)   
I read a post the first day I was on here about humor in our diagnosis. I personally don't think I could cope with this if it was'nt for making fun of it! You have to play the cards you are dealt so make the best of it
age 55dx 12-2008,psa at biopsy 8.6
biopsy 12/12 gleason 3+4=7
da vinci surgery 6-09 by DR. John W. Scott (my hero)
Hospital 3 days cath 7days still leaking from cough(bad lungs)
still have ed may be the hormones.
9-09 psa 2.2 hormone inj
10-09 nuclear bone scan no results yet I will have gold markers placed 12-29-09
start rad 1-10-09

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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 25393
   Posted 12/5/2009 10:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Brother, you are quite right. There is always humor in the darkest of events. While sitting each day at the radiation clinic, despite the fact that every patient there is in some kind of serious malady, it amazed me how much laughing and joking would go along with the folks. It a good coping tool in a crisis. Nothing is all good, nothing is all bad, most of life is somewhere in between.

Over time, I have really been cracked up by some of the natural humor that comes to the surface here. You would think it was a convention of game show hosts at times.

Please keep posting, and keep joining in. You will be helping us, and your self at the same time.

Best wishes,

David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence:  1 Month     ED:  Non issue at any point post surgery
Post Surgery  PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out  38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped  9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys cath #8 33 days, 11/2- SP Cath #9 in place

Regular Member

Date Joined Dec 2009
Total Posts : 97
   Posted 12/5/2009 10:42 AM (GMT -6)   
my wife gets mad at me for making it sound so funny but I have to keep reminding her it's better to be laughing than crying
I wont sink that low. thanks for your support
age 55dx 12-2008,psa at biopsy 8.6
biopsy 12/12 gleason 3+4=7
da vinci surgery 6-09 by DR. John W. Scott (my hero)
Hospital 3 days cath 7days still leaking from cough(bad lungs)
still have ed may be the hormones.
9-09 psa 2.2 hormone inj
10-09 nuclear bone scan no results yet I will have gold markers placed 12-29-09
start rad 1-10-09

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Date Joined Nov 2006
Total Posts : 883
   Posted 12/5/2009 1:03 PM (GMT -6)   
You got that right Zach! It's amazing what we can learn to laugh at. Eventhough I am out of the heavy pads I still need a "Manty Liner" to catch the drips that make it throught the AUS. I guess I will keep laughing for many years to come.
    43 at Dx and Surgery (RRP)
    PSA 5.7, Biopsy 3 of 12 positive (up to 75%) all on left side of prostate, Gleason 7
    RRP on Oct. 17, 2006 - Nerves on right side saved. All Lab's clear. 
    Cathiter in for 28 days due to complications in healing. Removed Nov. 9, 2006
     Dec. 2006 – Oct. 2008 Cystoscope, Two Collagen injections,Second Opinion   
    Consultation for Incontinance at OU Medical Center, Bio-Feedback       
    training, Chiropractic, Accupuncture , AdVance Male Sling, Two More Collagen 
    injections, AUS Installed and Activated (Dr. Morey at UT Southwestern Dallas TX)
    All to try to resolve incontinence (using 6-8 Depends Guards a day)

    To Date All PSA's 0.00.

Regular Member

Date Joined Nov 2008
Total Posts : 184
   Posted 12/5/2009 1:40 PM (GMT -6)   
I believe that a positive attitude makes a big difference when fighting any illness. I read a good story on this forum some time back about a brother that was discussing making love to his wife. She said that they use to play "cobra in the woods" (or something along those lines) but can only play "snake in the grass" now. He replied that he could only stand at the foot of the bed and shake his little garden snake and make a hissing sound. The following day his wife would wiggle her little finger at him when she walked by and hiss. I probably butchered the story from my memory but you can get the point. That's a good sense on humor in my opinion.
Age 51
Pre - Op PSA, 4.3
Gleason 3+4=7
Stage T1C
da Vinci Prostatectomy 8/1/08
No issues with incontinence since day 1 after catheter removal
Mild ED. Levitra works well for me
PSA 0.00 at one year post op

Regular Member

Date Joined Oct 2009
Total Posts : 32
   Posted 12/5/2009 4:23 PM (GMT -6)   
I now find humor in the fact that the thing that feels the best in my life is being able to take a good healthy p**s and feeling like my bladder is empty. Especially in the middle of the night.
Age: 63
Gleason: 8 (5+3) Biopsys ranged from 90% to 100%
Refused surgery and hormone therapy. Doctor really made an argument for benefits of hormone therapy, I could not accept the consequences.
28 IMRT treatments.  Originally scheduled to get seed implants but doc decided that due to my prognosis High Dose Rate Brachythrapy was a better path to attempt.
PSA: 13
Let the chips fall where they may.

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Date Joined Feb 2008
Total Posts : 655
   Posted 12/6/2009 1:50 AM (GMT -6)   
Greetings, Zach.  I think you are absolutely correct.  We can't forget the seriousness of what we are facing when diagnosed and the necessity of getting appropriate treatment, but looking at the situation with a sense of humor can go a long way.  Let me give you one example from my journey.  I serve as the CFO for a large international not for profit.  In that role I had a responsibility to inform our board of my diagnosis and the fact that I could be out of the office for several weeks (turned out to be only 3).  I chose to give them the facts,  but to do it in such a way to try and put them at ease.  We have 90 board members so with the board members, many of their spouses and several guests, I was talking to about 200 - 250  people.  Our CEO gives his report and then I give a report at each board meeting (6 a year).  I told them that I had my physical and my doctor - who is an attractive young woman who looks to be about 15 years old but is probably about 30 - was obviously not going to do a DRE.  I told her I needed a good physical and she said I know just what you are talking about so she called her nurse in and I had a woman to do it and another woman to watch. 
I then stressed the importance of getting those DREs and said that I had considered asking the 3 doctors we have on our board to set up shop in conference rooms (we were in a large hotel) and we could all form a line!  That had them howling.  I also reminded the women we have that they had exams they needed to get regularly and encouraged them to do so.
By the time I was finished, they were at ease and it also helped me.  I concluded by saying that I fully intended to be at the next board meeting (2 months later) and that they wouldn't even know I had completed surgery or even had cancer because I was going to be fully functioning.  I kind of jokingly said, when I see you in 2 months in Dallas I want the best suite in the house to celebrate my full recovery.
When I arrived in Dallas 2 months later and checked into the hotel the lady behind the desk said to me as she handed me the keys, Sir, let me call the bellman to escort you up to our finest suite!  They had indeed taken care of me in that regard.
I am convinced that all along the way having a sense of humor has helped me.  I don't ever forget the seriousness of my diagnosis, but I choose to deal with it in a way that deflects from that seriousness and focuses on other important areas of my life.   I find it much easier to laugh at myself than others and that continues to guide me.  David
Diagnosed Dec 2007 during annual routine physical at age 55
PSA doubled from previous year from 1.5 to 3.2
12 biopsies - 2 pos; 2 marginal
Gleason 3+3; upgraded to 4+3 post surgery
RRP 4 Feb 08; both nerves spared
Good pathology - no margins - all encapsulated
Catheter out Feb 13 - pad free Feb 16
PSA every 90 days - ZERO's everytime!
Great wife and family who take very good care of me

Regular Member

Date Joined May 2009
Total Posts : 215
   Posted 12/6/2009 9:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I frimly believe in the healing qualities of a good laugh. It certainly is better than a great black cloud over your head in times of stress and worry.

Here is a repeat performance of my surgery experience a brief 9 weeks ago and an insight to my state of mind as far as humour goes immediately following surgery.

Hope you enjoy it.

Keep well,



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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 1132
   Posted 12/6/2009 11:04 AM (GMT -6)   
I always find humor. Some after surgery I passed gas and peed all over myself. I said well I must be multi-tasking.
Age 49
occupation accountant
PSA increased from 2.6 to 3.5 in one year
biopsy march 2008 - cancer present gleason 7
Robotic Surgery May 9, 2008 - houston, tx
Pathology report -gleason 8, clear margins
12 month  PSA <.04 (low as the machine will go)
continent at 10 weeks (no pads!)
ED is still an issue but getting better

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