Posted 12/9/2009 9:10 PM (GMT -6)
Probably every man here will give you a different answer on incontinence, but it is a little of all you said at different times.
When the PA at Cleveland Clinic handed me a container and said , here hold this, I'm going to remove your catheter, he whipped it out, and I stood there, talking. My wife said, hey, you're leaking. I didn't have the container in place and had no idea I was running on the floor.
But soon, a few days, I could hold it while i was sitting or laying, but when I got up, there was no way to hold it unless I physically grabbed hold of Willie and pinched him off.
Gradually, maybe a month or so, I could get up and make it to the toilet, and only leak a pad or two a day. I could feel the leak, but just couldn't stop it. For a while, I bought a clamp which actually pinched Willie so I could function at work, without great embarassment, or attend social occasions.
Now, after 8 months, I can go all weekend, and in the evenings without wearing a pad. Coughing or sneezing, or lifting heavy objects can cause a slight squirt, but not enough to soak my pants.
I still wear a pad during the day for security, but I will wear one less and less.
If it never got any better for me, I am OK. With my Gleason 9, I am very pleased with my results thus far. If the cost of good results is a squirt in the pants once in a while, then I have no complaints.