welcome, sounds like your got your hands full already with your husband's prostate cancer diagnosis.
what would help, can you post any of the information about his diagnosis, I am assuming he had a biopsy done, could you share the results of that with us, it would help us understand where he is at in his PC journey, and what stage or progress his cancer is at.
Yes, being scared, and being angry ,and often at the same time, is a most common reaction with any sane person finding out they have cancer. The best way for him not to be angry and scared is to become educated. As a general rule, getting a PC diagnosis is not getting an automatic death sentence. We have men here with very advanced cases of PC, that have their disease in check, and continue to live fulfilling lives. If his is in the early stages, he very well may die with prostate cancer, and not because of it.
The men that do best here, are us lucky ones that have loving and caring wives that watch out for us, and we work our cancer as a team together. Speaking only for myself, I would never have made it through all I have been through, without the care and support of my wife in particular, and my family in general, and the good people here at HW.
The best way for him to get over the scared part is through education about his prostate cancer. He will learn there are all kinds of treatments available, and most men do well with them. Education will take away the fear. As far as the anger, hopefully he won't stay in that stage for long. There is no one to be angry at. There is no one to blame. We all hate our cancer, trust me, but if it is in the cards for a person, then the next best thing to do is to deal with it head on.
We are here to help him, to help you, in any way you need. If he won't post or talk to us, then you talk for him through us here, we have wives, sons, and daughters that do the same thing for the men in their lives. We can do the same for you.
This is hard on you too, and his his anger gets vented the wrong way, then you get hurt too.
Please try to post some info on his case, it will make it easier for us to help and guide you.
Come back often.
David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence: 1 Month ED: Non issue at any point post surgery
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - began IMRT SRT - 39 sess/72 gys ,cath #8 33 days, Cath #9 in 35 days, 12/7/9 - Cath #10 in place