It is not Men's Depends, question about pads... Please help

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   Posted 12/25/2009 7:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you guys I swear without this forum, I would be completely lost. My father is 4 days post op.
The doctor told my father there is something that he can wear (not Men's Depends) that he can change just like a pad. That way he doesnt have to take off the whole diaper and put it back on....basically it's more convenient. Does anyone know what I am talking about and if so, can you help me. My father wants to be able to wear his underwear but just put a pad on. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Worried Guy
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   Posted 12/25/2009 7:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh Luv, have you have come to the right place!!!
I have done more testing of pads than NASA.

If your dad is just starting out, he should try Depends Men's Guards. They hold about 175 ml, 6 oz, before they start to leak. If you cant get those, CVS sells "Guards for Men" $13 for a pack of 52. They hold similar amount of liquid but are less expensive since they do not have an outside wrapper.
Unfortunately I am quite experienced with pads and have a variety of sizes. Sometimes I will put half a poise pad (capacity 90-100 ml) inside a Guard so I can rip it out quickly and be fresh and clean for the long day ahead. Typically right after my morning shower I double up and get dressed. Then just as I am leaving the house, I reach in, pull out the Poise pad, and drop it in the outdoor trash. (I'm glad my neighbors can't see me.)
Good Luck,
Almost forgot. Never, Never mistake "Depends Boost Pads" for "Depends Guard Pads". They look alike but Boost pads do not have the shield and will soak through your clothes faster than you can say Niagara Falls.
DX Age 56. First routine PSA test on April 8th: 17.8. Start 2 weeks of Cipro to rule out protatitis.
May PSA: 22.6, 3 weeks later: PSA: 23.2.
Biopsy 6/10/09: 7/12 scores positive, Gleason 6=3+3. Bone scan and C/T scan negative.
RP DaVinci -7/21/2009 @ Univ of Roch Medical Center
Left nerve gone, right partial spared.
Catheter removed - 7/31/2009 Pathology report received:
Gleason 3+4=7, Tumor size: 2.5 x 1.8 cm, location: both lobes and apex.
Extraprostatic extension present; Perineural invasion: present, extensive.
No Malignancy in Seminal Vesicle, vasa deferentia, lymph nodes 0/13
Prostate mass 56 grams. Pathologic Stage: pT3aN0MX
Post Surgery Status:
Potency - 12/11 5 months, Still no activity, zip. Using pump daily since 11/11. No effect with 20 mg of Cialis or 100 mg of Viagra. Shots next?
Incontinence - 8/20 4 full pads per day
.. 9/7 3-4 full pads per day (I'm going to try cutting down on fluids. Bad idea. I know.)
. 9/27 2 months: Still 3 pads per day.
11/14 4 months: Still 3 pads per day. 420ml/day, 91 um leak.
12/11 5 months: Still 3 pads per day. 400-450ml/day Experimenting with Nyquil for 10 days: Can sleep through the night but withdrawal is bad. Stopped 12/20.
Post Surgery PSA - 9/3 6 weeks - 0.05; 10/13 3 months - 0.04 undetectable.

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Date Joined May 2008
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   Posted 12/25/2009 7:48 PM (GMT -6)   
 Sure, there are mens depend pads, I never wore the pull-up things some of the other guys have had to. As far as the pads, they come in heavy, medium....I wore those for a month or so then switched to light pads. I always just picked mine up in the "pad" section of the local Wal-mart...... does he still have his cath in after just four days or are you just planning ahead?
  age: 53 @ Dx, Pre-op PSA Feb 08' 5.0, April 08' 4.1
  Biopsy 5.1.08, 5 of 15 cores postive, T2a, Gleason 3+4=7
  DaVinci performed 7.29.08
  Bladder sling installed, umbilical hernia repaired during surgery.
  Path report, "cancer fully contained, margins clear".
  Cath removed 8.8.08, ED therapy begins 8.9.08
  100mg Viagra three times a week, pump for ten minutes daily
  and hold for ten minutes.
  8.16.08 switched to Levitra 20mg, immediate results
  9.15.08 Pad free at night, one thin (light) pad during the day
  9.18.08 1st Post-op PSA Undetectable Zero's....Yes!
  12.22.08 2nd Post-op PSA  Zero's still...
  6.23.09 1yr Post-op PSA Still a zero..
  Pads gone 1.3.09, finally found the courage...Thanks ya'll
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   Posted 12/25/2009 7:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Well using the "Depends" brand just as an example. They make pull-up disposable underwear for men, some would call them a diaper, and then they make the Depends guards. A lot of men use them. They have a sticky side, that adheres to the inside of men's regular brief style underpants. They will not work with boxers. And they can hold quite a bit of urine without leaking. I used the guards during the day when I was in regular clothing, and at night, I did wear a pull-up, just because i worried to death about wetting the bed. It never happened, don't think I ever made a pull-up wet. But those are the two basic products. I had gone on some pretty high level job interview with the guards in place, and never worried about them leaking on me. Once or twice, I bought some "no name" generic products, and was most unhappy with them. Hope this info helps a bit.

David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence:  1 Month     ED:  Non issue at any point post surgery
Post Surgery  PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped  9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - 11/27 IMRT SRT 39 sess/72 gys ,cath #8 33 days, Cath #9 35 days, 12/7 - Cath #10 in place

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   Posted 12/26/2009 4:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Depends guards for men inside reasonably tight jockey shorts is definitely the place to start for most men. In the first week or two he may go through 6 - 10 a day so knowing where the next bathroom is is important. Unlike feminine pads, depends are quite bulky so it takes a while to get used to them and you never quite forget that you have them on.
Age at diagnosis 66, PSA 5.5
Biopsy 12/08 12 cores, 8 positive
Gleason 3+4=7
CAT scan, Bone scan 1/09 both negative.

Robotic surgery 03/03/09 Catheter Out 03/08/09
Pathology: Lymph nodes & Seminal vesicles negative
Margins positive, Capsular penetration extensive Gleason 4+3=7
6 weeks: 1 pad/day, 1 pad/night -- mostly dry at night.
10 weeks: no pad at night -- slight leakage day/1 pad.
3 mo. PSA 0.0 - now light pads
6 mo. PSA 0.00 -- 1 light pad/day

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