Don't go out and buy a ton of stuff. I believe that you will find if his experience is like many, that at first a larger pad (like those women wear on heavy days) cut in half, cross-sectionally and worn in brief style underwear will do just fine. Then, as he recovers, the light day pads will suffice, again, cut in half. He can carry the pads in his pocket, brief case, coat pocket, etc for when he feels the need to change. It is much easier and less obtrusive to use pads than Depends, he will see very quickly.
So bottom line, brief underwear and pads.
Age 55, two teens, very fit cyclist (avg 2000+ miles per year) and weight, diet, etc. consistent with good habits. Stressful job as attorney; very supporting wife who is helping me through every stage of this war.
2006 PSA - 1.5
2007 PSA - 2.3
2008 PSA - 5.3 (18 mos.)
2009 Jan. 20 - Biopsy 12 samples
Feb 3 Dx 2/12 samples positive, low volume (5% and 7-10%)
Gleason 3+4, later downgraded by second opinion at Johns-Hopkins to 3+3, but "it's still PCa" as my Doc said.
Laproscopic surgery April 9, University of KY Medical Center, Lexington, 3 days in hospital, catheter removal April 21.
Pathology: clear margins, no cancer in prostate: told that this is very rare and Doc has only seen it in 3 out of over 1400 cases; I rearched the concept of "vanishing cancer" and found a tumor classification of tP0 and asked Doc if it applied to me. He said that it was unlikely because if a pathologist had done a much more detailed analysis of the tissue, he would likely find more foci somewhere, and biopsy found "needle in the haystack as opposed to the tip of the iceberg"; Nevertheless, it is a blessing;
Regardless of the science, my family says "miracle."
Now working w/ post-surgery issues....