Hello Whistling Gus, love the name.
It's a good question you ask, but one that's difficult to answer. Your post-op life will divide into some very distinct experiences. First, immediate post-op you'll have the fun of a catheter, which isn't all bad as you get to drink as much as you want before going to bed and then sleep the night through --- at least without needing to empty your bladder, which for me was a nice experience. I don't know when it had been I'd slept for eight hours without a bathroom break. And, early on, you'll have pain management, wound care, and wondering how to sit, or lie in the bed, comfortably. The first conversation with the surgeon after is probably a heart stopper as is waiting for the final pathology.
Second, post catheter, there is the joy of pads and wondering if you'll ever be able to hold a drop again. Going for walks. Being amazed at how schwacked you are.
Third, you'll gradually realize life is pretty normal again. Oh sure, ED is a challenge and there's the odd dribble, but one day you find you've been to the office, out to dinner and a movie, and while the surgery was a factor you're so used to whatever the issues are, they are just part of life --- no big deal. What is a big deal is suddenly it's PSA time and you can't help but worry.
The above, I believe, is how it is for most people. Some go through the various stages quickly, some slowly. I'm probably in the middle.
For some the PSA doesn't co-operate and then there's decisions to be made and more treatment to get through.
All in all, while there are some general commonalities, fact is this is a journey that's somewhat unique for each of us.
I suggest the best way to know what you're going to be facing is to start to read HW everyday. Every thread. Over time you'll find in bits here, and bits there, what lies ahead for you, and you'll probably have questions about this, or that. And, when you have questions, there is no better spot than here to get answers.
Sheldon AKA Sleepless
Age 67 in Apil '09 at news of 4 of 12 cores positive T2B and Gleason 3 + 3 and 5% to 25% PSA 1.5
Re-read of slides in June said Gleason 3 + 4 same four cores 5% to 15%
June 29 daVinci prostatectomy, Dr. Eric Estey, at Royal Alexandra Hospital Edmonton one night stay
Flew home to Winnipeg on July 3 after 5 nights in Ramada Inn --- perfect recovery spot!
Catheter out July 9, so far, so good
Final pathology is 3 + 4 Gleason 7, clear margins, clear nodes, T2C, sugeron says report is "excellent"
First post op PSA Sept 09 less than 0.02
PSA on Oct 23 test again less than 0.02
Oct 1st 09 -- dry at night, during day some stress issues, but better every week.