I would recommend getting some additional opinions. Before my surgery in November, I met with three surgeons and a general medical oncologist. All three surgeons, independently, recommended taking one nerve bundle because of the location of the cancer. That helped set my mind that this was a necessary course.
That said, the results were not drastic at all, as I had feared. Recovery was quick. I had no problem with incontinence, and only wore pads for a few days until I was sure. At age 66 I did not expect that. I also feel great, and after eight weeks have resumed a fully active normal life. My wife and I plan a major trip in February to Asia.
As for the other issue that relates to nerve bundles, that is a work in progress, but I am encouraged. I would add also that the main goal is to achieve the best chance of being cancer free.
Best wishes to you and your husband.
PSA: 6.0 on 07/31/09 having risen from 4.2 on 12/02/08. Free PSA 23.5%.Other PSA History: 4.3 on 05/01/08; 3.3 on 11/15/07; 3.1 on 05/20/07; 4.0 on 11/30/06; 3.40 on 09/01/05.
Biopsy: 09/04/09 13 snips; two positive. Right Mid 4+3 = 7 and 15% of the total volume. Right Lateral Mid 4+3 = 7 and 20% of the total volume.
DaVinci robotic surgery: 11/05/09. Post surgery pathology: margins clean, no invasion of seminal vessels, no upgrade of the Gleason scores, no evidence of cancer outside the prostate capsule.
Cathether removed one week later: 11/12/09. No incontinence. Stopped pads after a few days.
Post Surgery PSA test: scheduled early February.