Honestly, the surgery aspect is the easiest part of the whole PC experience. You may have a little pain which is handled nicely by good narcotics, (don't be afraid to ask ahead of time, always worse when you let it get too bad). You may have some anxious moments trying to pass that first gas, or BM after the surgery, but everyone I know on here does it eventually. Just get up and walk as soon as you possiblyu can. Catheters are an annoyance, but really, nothing you can't handle.
In my experience, the waiting for the pathology, followup PSA's, and overall anxiety about having PC is the worst part.
But at the end of the day, when we realize we have won a major battle against PC, and have our family and friends around us, and years of goodtimes to enjoy, the rest of the stuff begins to become unimportant.
Incontinence is a bother, but you can learn to live with it, ED is also a major for most men, but there are many ways to get erections, and for a while, you may find a new physical relationship with your wife that is as good as the s*x you had before the surgery.
Good luck. You will be a better man is many ways after undergoing this process.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injection
No pads, 1/1/10