I think James is giving you some great advice.
Not sure what you meant by saying you and your wife are not conflicted. I assume you mean that she is ok with whatever you end up with as far as function, etc. I think most of our wives have also not put any pressure on us in this area. They love us for who we are, not for our sexual ability.
That being said, I 'm not sure if very many men with post RP Ed don't really miss the ability to have sex. Even if it's only once a week or once a month at our stages of life, it's one of those things that is really hard (no joke) to give up.
I know where you are right now. Still peeing your pants, worried about
positive margins, first PSA etc. and with post surgical aches and pains, sex is not high on your list.
I would suggest that things will change. As the weeks and months wear on, you will get a desire to "climb into the saddle" again. It's like being told you can't do something. Doggone it, we still want to do it.
I would suggest you look at the rehab aspect as being important, and realizing that you may change your mind in a few months.
Good luck mel. We all have our fingers crossed with you.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injection
No pads, 1/1/10, 9 month PSA < .01