Hello britecolor ,and welcome to HW Prostate Cancer. Your SO is just a year younger than me, so makes him the same age as when I got my PC dx. Is he having open or robotic surgery? You said 2 days in the hospital, I was in for 4 days with open, and many men here that have had robotic are only in for one day. He certainly is having his surgery with a good surgeon at a good hospital.
Until the surgery is over, only the post surgical pathology report would let you know if there was any spread to the lymph nodes, and thats assuming some, many, or all were removed for examination.
The two to three weeks returning to work would really be pushing it for most men, and again, makes a big difference in the type of surgery performed, and how your SO reacts to it.
On the incontinence product question, there are many choices and you will get as many answers here too. My incontinence lasted less than a month, so I don't have a lot of experience in dealing with it. When I was buying pads and pull-ups, I had the best luck with the real Depends brand, even though they cost more. You can go to their web site and print off discount coupons once a month, I believe. I tried using some CVS brand generic products, but to me, they were inferior in quality and weren't worth the little in savings.
Please keep us posted, and ask as many questions as you wish.
David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence: 1 Month ED: Non issue at any point post surgery
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - 11/27 IMRT SRT 39 sess/72 gys ,cath #8 33 days, Cath #9 35 days, 12/7 - Cath #10 43 days, 1/19 - Corr Surgery #4, Caths #11 and #12 in at the same time, 2/8-Cath #11 out - 21 days