You are in a tough situation to be sure. Many times our spouses are put through a more difficult situation than we are.
If your husband is not going to follow a doctor's advice, then he is in great peril. No matter if you find the most qualified oncologist in the world, it sounds as tho your husband will only do what he believes is best.
Faith is a wonderful thing, and many men on this site are deeply committed to their faith. But it seems that sometimes God chooses to use doctors, medicine, and experiences of theirs to help us. When we refuse these things, we are really rejecting the object of our faith.
I wish you and your husband the best in the coming months. Your husband may be helped by a professional counselor. Sometimes depression exhibits itself in this manner. You may even cnsider spiritual counseling to help your husband understand that he may not be able to to this on his own.
I hope you feel welcome to participate on this forum, and speak freely. We will try to help all that we can.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injection
No pads, 1/1/10, 9 month PSA < .01