I am one of the old timers here and unfortunately one of those that almost never got any improvement in either incontinence or ED. In my profile below you will see everything I tried. I was a constant leaker during the day but under control at night and that was the way from the start. I had sling surgery six weeks ago and it improved things to about 2-3 pads per day...not what I hoped. The ED is not a problem for either me or my wife, not very needy in that department at age 66. Will deal with that if the incontinence ever gets under control.
I have led a normal life all during time. Working and traveling full time, playing golf, chasing grandkids etc. You do learn to manage the incontinence. I used all forms of pads/Depends but also used a Cunningham clamp at work (office) and when traveling. Just bought a Dribblestop clamp I am now going to try but the 2-3 pads is really not that bad to deal with.
As other have said, cheer up and be glad you stay cancer free. Life goes on just fine.
I am encouraged to hear about the stem cell thing. Encouraging and I may hold off doing the AUS sphincter for a year or two and see what develops.
64 year old male in excellent physical condition.
PSA jumped 3 to 8 in one year
pt2b NO Mx with a Gleason score 3+3=6.
DaVinci RP, 7/23/08. Tumor type: Acinar
size 5.5 cm x 5.7 cm weight: 77 gm.
Largest tumor nodule: 1.3 cm. All margins negative.
Incontinence & ED. Dry nights , no control during day.
Imipremine and detrol, Phy ther. and kegals no help.
FUDS and cystourethroscopy testing 10/09.
24 hr pad wt. 219gm. AUA sympton index 13/35=moderate
Incontinence symp. index severeity score=22
Rec. for sling surgery. Dr. does mostly InVance.
Researched and decided on either AdVance or Virtue.
Virtue sling surgery 2/3/10 NYU med center by Dr. Victor Nitti