Sorry to hear the news.
If your husband had to have a catheter put in at an ER, not surprised. In Dec 2008, I had total blockage less than 8 hours after a cath was removed, the dr's offices were closed, and I had to go to my local ER. They were idiots, took them 4 hours of fooling around, and even after they consulted by phone with my uro/surgeon, they still didnt listen to him, and used the wrong size/type catheter, and almost did perm. damage to me. My dr knows does things in a way that won't put me into an ER again if he can help it.
As far as depression and being on anti-depressents, you might be surprised how many men are and do that. No shame or harm, cancer is a serious thing, and a life changing thing, and its harder for some people to deal with it than others. It doesnt mean the person is weaker if they need that kind of help. It might be what your husband needs to work through his PC.
I hope things will improve for him and for you, as I know how hard it must be for you to watch him going through all this ordeal.
Please keep us posted.
David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence: 1 Month ED: Non issue at any point post surgery, no problem post SRT
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - 11/27 IMRT SRT 39 sess/72 gys ,cath #8 33 days, Cath #9 35 days, 12/7 - Cath #10 43 days, 1/19 - Corr Surgery #4, Caths #11 and #12 same time, 2/8-Cath #11 out - 21 days, 3/2- Cath #12 out - 41 days, 3/2- Corr Surgery #5, 3/6 Cath #13 out - 4 days, Cath #14 out - 27 days, Cath #15 - 3/29