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rosegardener
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Date Joined Apr 2010
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 4/4/2010 8:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone,
My urologist suggested internet discussion for continued support and advice, so here I am.
I was sexually active pre surgery, and am now looking to resume. The first challenge, of course, will be ED. I will be trying Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra to see how they workI know that some of you are using a pump, which I will likely try as well. My biggest concern (perhaps fear), however will be finding a partner who would be willing to join me in whatever sexual activity might evolve. I haven't tried, yet, but would be interested in hearing from others about their experiences.

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Age 69, Brookline, MA
Pre diagnosis:
Moderate ED
PSA was 4.5
Using Viagra 100mg
Using Testosterone injections
Biopsy: Gleason 3+3
DaVinci nerve sparing surgery 6/08
3/10:
Incontinence minor, no pads
Testosterone not allowed
ED: Not back to pre surgery level
Intercourse not possible
Orgasm: Excellent quality, but a lot of work.
Investigating Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra (free introductory pills)

tatt2man
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2010
Total Posts : 2842
   Posted 4/4/2010 9:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Rosegardener - welcome to the club, as they say, no one wants to be a member of. The great thing about this group of men and women is that we all share one goal - dealing with and conquering Prostate Cancer. You will find a lot of support and personal advice here . You can check out the links above at the top of the forum listing. And for frank personal support regarding ED check out:

www.franktalk.org/

All the best.

hugs
BRONSON


p.s. as a gardener and garden centre salesman - wishing you a healthy and happy year for your roses !
.................
Age: 54 - gay - with common-law spouse of 13 years, Steve - 59
PSA: 04/2007- 1.68 - 08/2009 - 3.46 - 10/2009 - 3.86
Confirmation of Prostate Cancer: October 16, 2009 - 6 of 12 cancerous samples , Gleason 7 (4+3)
Doctor: Dr. Mohamed Elharram -Urologist / Surgeon - Peterborough Regional Health Centre
Radical Prostatectomy Operation: November 18, 2009 , home - November 21, 2009
Post Surgery Biopsy: pT3a- gleason 7 - extraprostatic extension - perineural invasion - prostate weight - 34.1gm -
ED Prescription: Jan 8/2010 - started daily 5mg cialis - girth back to normal -but not much length - will go for trimix in April when I see doc
Incontinence: Feb 2010- 3-5 pads/1-2 clothes changes/day- March 3, 2010 - week 14 after surgery -finally seeing improvement - March 29- incontinence better - 1-2 pads a day - one pad at night
location: Peteborough, Ontario, Canada
Post Surgery-PSA: to be announced - April 8, 2010
............


Purgatory
Elite Member


Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 25380
   Posted 4/4/2010 9:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome aboard:

Glad you found our small corner of the world. Ask any questions that come to mind, we have men here that are experienced in all my phase or possibility in their PC journeys. No such thing as a dumb question to us.

We even had good sisters here, that may want to take a shot at your questions from a woman's point of view.

Please stick around and keep us well reported on your journey

David in SC
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence:  1 Month     ED:  Non issue at any point post surgery, no problem post SRT
Post Surgery  PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped  9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - 11/27 IMRT SRT 39 sess/72 gys ,cath #8 33 days, Cath #9 35 days, 12/7 - Cath #10 43 days, 1/19 - Corr Surgery #4,  Caths #11 and #12  same time, 2/8-Cath #11 out - 21 days, 3/2- Cath #12 out - 41 days, 3/2- Corr Surgery #5, 3/6 Cath #13 out - 4 days, Cath #14 out - 27 days, Cath #15 - 3/29


Zen9
Regular Member


Date Joined Oct 2009
Total Posts : 310
   Posted 4/5/2010 8:28 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome, rosegardener!

I predict that you will find a willing partner.  Unless you are very lucky, it will take some patience and a sense of humor, because I also predict that many women will not be interested unless you are wealthy.

Good luck!

Zen9


rosegardener
New Member


Date Joined Apr 2010
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 4/5/2010 3:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks,Zen9, for that jolt of reality. Sadly, I am not wealthy, but I'm known for my patience.

tatt2man
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2010
Total Posts : 2842
   Posted 4/5/2010 3:34 PM (GMT -6)   
you can always sweet talk them with your roses, rosegardener

horticultural hugs
BRONSON
.................
Age: 54 - gay - with common-law spouse of 13 years, Steve - 59
PSA: 04/2007- 1.68 - 08/2009 - 3.46 - 10/2009 - 3.86
Confirmation of Prostate Cancer: October 16, 2009 - 6 of 12 cancerous samples , Gleason 7 (4+3)
Doctor: Dr. Mohamed Elharram -Urologist / Surgeon - Peterborough Regional Health Centre
Radical Prostatectomy Operation: November 18, 2009 , home - November 21, 2009
Post Surgery Biopsy: pT3a- gleason 7 - extraprostatic extension - perineural invasion - prostate weight - 34.1gm -
ED Prescription: Jan 8/2010 - started daily 5mg cialis - girth back to normal -but not much length - will go for trimix in April when I see doc
Incontinence: Feb 2010- 3-5 pads/1-2 clothes changes/day- March 3, 2010 - week 14 after surgery -finally seeing improvement - March 29- incontinence better - 1-2 pads a day - one pad at night
location: Peteborough, Ontario, Canada
Post Surgery-PSA: to be announced - April 8, 2010
............


geezer99
Veteran Member


Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 990
   Posted 4/5/2010 5:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Most guys who are willing to try, can have successful intercourse with injections -- this can make foreplay a bit odd, you are flaccid, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, and then boom -- a bit of self stimulation while standing over her and you are hard. Clearly it is probably best to give a low key warning so she understands why she can't bring you up by herself, but as far as performance, it is all there and so she doesn't have to accommodate to much.

Read about the experience that various guys have had with injections and expect to experiment alone because you need to learn dosage and technique.

Most of all, remember that especially for women, lovemaking isn't so much about penetration as it is about physical and emotional contact and your ability to give that will be unchanged.
Age at diagnosis 66, PSA 5.5
Biopsy 12/08 12 cores, 8 positive
Gleason 3+4=7
CAT scan, Bone scan 1/09 both negative.

Robotic surgery 03/03/09 Catheter Out 03/08/09
Pathology: Lymph nodes & Seminal vesicles negative
Margins positive, Capsular penetration extensive Gleason 4+3=7
6 weeks: 1 pad/day, 1 pad/night -- mostly dry at night.
10 weeks: no pad at night -- slight leakage day/1 pad.
3 mo. PSA 0.0 - now light pads
6 mo. PSA 0.00 -- 1 light pad/day
9 mo. PSA 0.00 -- 1 light pad/day ED remains

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