My daughter (almost 21) came to visit me today, she has a new boyfriend and wanted me and her stepmom to meet him. My birthday is on the 5th and she had an early present for me. I have mixed feelings about the present. There is a long story about our relationship, I divorced her mother 7 years ago, was the bad guy, although really the good guy all the way. In the last few years she has figured it all out and dad is really an ok guy. I told her about my tests the day before the results of the biopsy, (only one day to worry and I would not technically be keeping anything from her). She was upset and very concerned as I expected, I told her, honey, "It Is What It Is" I will deal with it and life will go on, I promissed to be around for a long time. The next day I was happy to give her the results of a negative biopsy. She said but dad, the numbers are the numbers, I said yes they are. I will undergo regular testing and deal with things if and when they progress but for now I do not have a cancer diagnosis.
So, the birthday present....I am a little (ok alot) against tatoo's, especially for young people. Today she showed me a tatoo that she got on Monday. On the side of her foot it says "it is what it is" with a four leaf clover. She says she remembered what I said and wants to think of me every day when she puts her socks on. I was so shocked about the tatoo that I don't think I fully appreciated the effort. We are meeting on Wednesday for lunch, I need to express my feelings better.
p.s. The new boyfriend seems ok too, jury is still out, Its a dad thing.
47 Year old male, smoker, healthy
Routine physical May 12, 2009, PSA 4.12
Follow up PSA October 27, 2009, PSA 4.61 / Free PSA 4% (Not good)
Referral to Urologist Feb 18, 2010
Follow up PSA January 7, 2010, PSA 3.95, Free PSA 4% (still not good)
Biopsy March 16th, 2010, 8 core samples taken, Results April 5, 2010
Results - very small prostate, DRE normal, all core samples negative, follow up PSA July, results Aug 2nd 2010