Hi Kmac, yes, in the days before surgery it starts to become more real. While it is easy enough to believe the doctors are right, you do have prostate cancer, it's not as if your life after the diagnosis is any different than it was before. It's like someone telling you you have a green spot in the middle of your back where you can't see it. However, when it comes time to get the green spot cut out --- now, that's getting real at a whole new level of real.
I was lucky to have both my wife, and my sister, herself a cancer survivor, with me as I headed to the hospital. They radiated confidence that all would be well ("in a couple of years this will just be a blip in your life," my sister said) and a sense of joy and excitement that I was getting treated. Wheeeee! I picked up on their positive vibes and after living through some of the worst weeks of my life worrying about cancer I rode in the taxi to the hospital confident, happy, and relaxed.
My surgeon was also very good in a pre-op conversation. He didn't gloss over the possibilities of bad pathology, or losing nerves, etc., but he gave me total confidence the surgery would go well and I'd be fine. "The real danger is driving to the hospital --- once you're in my OR you've never been safer!"
You can tell your dad he's got a cheering section in Canada.
Please, do write and keep us posted.
Sheldon AKA Sleepless
Age 67 in Apil '09 at news of 4 of 12 cores positive T2B and Gleason 3 + 3 and 5% to 25% PSA 1.5
Re-read of slides in June said Gleason 3 + 4 same four cores 5% to 15%
June 29 daVinci prostatectomy, Dr. Eric Estey, at Royal Alexandra Hospital Edmonton one night stay
From "knock out" to wake up in recovery less than two hours. Actual surgery 70 minutes
Flew home to Winnipeg on July 3 after 5 nights in Ramada Inn --- perfect recovery spot!
Catheter out July 9
Final pathology is 3 + 4 Gleason 7, clear margins, clear nodes, T2C, sugeron says report is "excellent"
Oct 1st 09 -- dry at night, during day some stress issues.
Oct 31st padless 24/7
First post op PSA Sept 09 less than 0.02
PSA on Oct 23 test again less than 0.02
PSA on Jan 8 less than 0.02
PSA on April 9 less than 0.02