welcome to hw prostate cancer. glad you found us, this is a good place to learn, to share, to vent, etc. perhaps it would help if you could help us with a bit more details about your husbands prostate cancer journey. at some point, you can go to the control panel at the top of this page, and make a signature showing the most basic facts about his case.
sounds like your husband is still in the anger phase, which is expected and common, though saying that doesnt make it any easier for you to bear, of course. you two, indeed need to talk about the entire situation together, perhaps with his doctor, or your clergy if you have any, or even a close neutral friend or relative. while its his cancer of course, as his wife, it still effects your strongly. his anger shouldn't be directed toward you.
there are some great daughters and wifes that contribute here on a regular basis, perhaps some will see your post and offer you some advice and help from the woman's perspective. for the most part, we men that are married or are in a committed relationship, are ever greatful for the great wives we do have, and contibute a lot of our recovery to their love and care. hopefully your husband will swing around emotionally and it can be that way for you too.
please keep us posted, as people here really care. we call it a brotherhood, but its a sisterhood too.
good luck, and don't ever give up hope.
david in sc
Age: 57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3
Open RP: 11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence: 1 Month ED: Non issue at any point post surgery, no problem post SRT
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, next one: July
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - 11/27 IMRT SRT 39 sess/72 gys ,cath #8 33 days, Cath #9 35 days, 12/7 - Cath #10 43 days, 1/19 - Corr Surgery #4, Caths #11 and #12 same time, 2/8-Cath #11 out - 21 days, 3/2- Cath #12 out - 41 days, 3/2- Corr Surgery #5, 3/6 Cath #13 out - 4 days, Cath #14- 27 days, Cath #15 - 26 days, Cath #16 - 4/23 put in