James, you shouldn't feel guilty, and I am glad you don't. You acted as a moderator in a responsible way.
When ever someone joins HW, for starters, they should at least scan or actually read the rules of conduct here. There aren't many of them to start with, and as anyone that has been here any length will know, the moderators, including you, James, allow a lot of looking the other way for the sake of peace.
It would do for us "old timers', to review the rules of conduct here too from time to time. Sometimes, I think we just plain "forget" a few of the ground rules, I will include myself in that group. Sometimes, I have to quickly retract or edit my own posts if I see that my ego or temper has gotten the best of me.
And the word tolerance needs to be applied by one and all. We are a diverse bunch here in so many ways, there's a million things we would disagree about
with all areas in our lives, but the one common thread of bonding here has always been about
PCa, and we need to remember that. And on the tolerance front, not everyone writes as well as another, some people have a harder time of expressing their fears and feelings.
With new brothers or sisters that come here, we must go back in time, and remember the fears and uncertanty that we harbored when we first came on the scene. For many, this is there first experience in a dynamic forumn like this.
I hope serbogirl looks beyond our human flaws, and rejoins our community. If chased away for good, our loss is great, and collectively we should feel ashamed.
But James, you did what was right, even if it leaves a confusing trail for someone to follow, left in its original course, there would have been a major meltdown.
David in SC
57, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 7/08 12.3, 9/08 14.5, 10/08 16.33rd Biopsy
: 9/08 - 7/7 Positive, 40-90% Cancer, Gleason 4+3Open RP:
11/08, Rht nerves saved, 4 days in hospt, on catheters for 63 days, 5th one out 1/09Path Rpt
: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incontinence: 1 Month ED: Non issue at any point post surgery, no problem post SRT
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, next one: July
Latest: 7/9 met 2 rad. oncl, 7/9 cath #6 - blockage, 8/9 2nd corr surgery, 8/9 cath #7 out 38 days, 9/9 - met 3rd rad. oncl., mapped 9/9, 10/1 - 3rd corr. surgery - SP cath/hard dialation, 10/5 - 11/27 IMRT SRT 39 sess/72 gys ,cath #8 33 days, Cath #9 35 days, 12/7 - Cath #10 43 days, 1/19 - Corr Surgery #4, Caths #11 and #12 same time, 2/8-Cath #11 out - 21 days, 3/2- Cath #12 out - 41 days, 3/2- Corr Surgery #5, 3/6 Cath #13 out - 4 days, Cath #14- 27 days, Cath #15 - 26 days, Cath #16 - 4/23 put in