Your response is so typical. I think every one of us said or thought the same thing at some point after diagnosis.
That being said, don't jump at the first log floating by. Take some time here. You really have months not weeks to decide what your best course of action is.
I am here to tell you incontinence and ED are real side effects. Mu URO's did not really get me to understand those words. Yeh, yeh , I thought, I'll be fine. I am not saying surgery isn't a great option for a younger man, and that you will be ok. Just make sure you understand what the side effects of all the treatments can be. Find the one that best suits your biopsy results with the least amount of side effects.
I would recommend a visit to a major cancer center and get an absolute second opinion from a team that has the experience and reputation. Places like Mayo, Johns Hopkins, Cleveland Clinic, etc.
I think when it is all said and done, you won't be sorry. This is a big step. You have a lot of years left to live. Make sure you take the time to make a decsion that is best for you, for your family, and your future.
Good luck. I am pleased to hear you say that you are listening to the advice being given here. It may not always be wrapped pretty, but it comes from experience and from guys who care. But as was said, it is your decsion ultimately.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injection
No pads, 1/1/10, 9 month PSA < .01
1 year psa (364 days) .01