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NewspaperLover
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Joined : Sep 2009
Posts : 464
Posted 6/5/2010 5:46 AM (GMT -8)
I lost a friend this week to prostate cancer.  John and I had been drinking buddies in college, attended each others weddings, and stayed in touch over the years.  My friend had open surgery six years ago, but the results were not "clean" and he subsequently went through several rounds of radiation and two clinical trials at Sloan-Kettering.  He had felt well until the last few months. John had been very helpful to me last summer and fall, when I was trying to figure out what to do.  Although my recovery has gone very well, I feel  humbled by this disease. Best wishes to all here.

Age 66

PSA History:  6.0  on 07/31/09 having risen from 4.2 on 12/02/08.  Free PSA 23.5%.Other PSA History: 4.3 on 05/01/08; 3.3 on 11/15/07; 3.1 on 05/20/07; 4.0 on 11/30/06; 3.40 on 09/01/05.

 

Biopsy:  09/04/09  13 snips;  two positive.  Right Mid  4+3 = 7 and 15% of the total volume.   Right Lateral Mid 4+3 = 7 and 20% of the total volume.

 

DaVinci robotic surgery:  11/05/09.  Post surgery pathology:  margins clean, no invasion of seminal vessels, no upgrade of the Gleason scores, no evidence of cancer outside the prostate capsule.

 

Cathether removed one week later:  11/12/09.  No incontinence.  Stopped pads after two days.

 

Subsequent:  PSA:  02/10  Undetectable at 0.00;  05/10 Undetectable at 0.00.  No incontinence.  No erections-- nerve bundle removed during surgery (this was anticipated).

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Purgatory
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Joined : Oct 2008
Posts : 25448
Posted 6/5/2010 5:49 AM (GMT -8)
Sorry to hear about the loss of your dear friend to this terrible disease. I wish comfort to both you and his family

Even one person dying to this cancer is one too many.

Hope you have many fine memories to help ease you through this time of loss and sorrow.

David in SC
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JB71
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Joined : Nov 2009
Posts : 206
Posted 6/5/2010 5:56 AM (GMT -8)
So very sorry to read about your loss. I too lost my best friend of 45 years a while back to a blood related cancer.
We learned how to sail together and he was such a great help with getting my boat ready each spring, always did the shake-down cruise with just the two of us. Great memories and many photos and a video are good reminders of him sharing my and my familie's lives.

Jerry in Canada.
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April6th
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Joined : May 2010
Posts : 265
Posted 6/5/2010 6:01 AM (GMT -8)
Sorry to hear about your friend. I hope some of your memories of your friend from better times helps get you through this.
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60Michael
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Posts : 2527
Posted 6/5/2010 6:21 AM (GMT -8)
Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. We are at an age when we are losing important people in our life. And it realy brings it home when the cause of death is PC. Glad you have the memories and it helps us,hopefully, to live our life fully.

Michael

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Swimom
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Posts : 1732
Posted 6/5/2010 6:31 AM (GMT -8)
Newspaperlover,

John sounds like a really great guy. Those good memories will carry you through.
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James C.
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Posts : 4464
Posted 6/5/2010 7:52 AM (GMT -8)
Sorry for your loss, good buddies are hard to find and keep....
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Posts : 7298
Posted 6/5/2010 8:03 AM (GMT -8)
Newspaperlover,

I lost a long-time friend to another cancer last week as well. I went back and got out pictures of days past, and remember those days, and the last few where we swapped stories about our hot radiation techs.

He and John are in a good place, drinking a great beer, wondering what all the fuss is down here.

They will be missed.
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Magaboo
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Joined : Oct 2006
Posts : 1215
Posted 6/5/2010 10:10 AM (GMT -8)
It's always tough to loose a family member or a good friend. As we get older this, unfortunately, will happen to most of us more and more. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your good friend. I hope that the memories you made together will will help you to carry on.
All the bets to you.

Magaboo
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livinadream
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Joined : Apr 2008
Posts : 1382
Posted 6/5/2010 5:56 PM (GMT -8)
Thank God for memories. I know your friend was special to you. I hate to hear of your loss especially to this disease that bonds us together.

peace to you
Dale
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Sleepless09
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Joined : Jul 2009
Posts : 1268
Posted 6/5/2010 7:27 PM (GMT -8)
Newspaper lover, sorry to read about your loss. John sounds like a great guy. Thanks for sharing his story.

I can identify a bit with your loss. Last week I spoke at the funeral of a dear friend who died of cancer. Sad, very sad, to lose her and having my own battle with the big "C" makes it all very personal. I am keenly aware that while all is looking good for me now, and 'remission,' or even 'cure,' may be the word, things could spin on a dime and change with my next PSA test. At some point something will take me to the big pressroom in the sky, and when it does I'm looking forward to meeting your friend John.

In the meantime may the memories of the great times you two had together help fill the void left by his death.

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Sheldon AKA Sleepless
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