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James C.
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Posted 7/26/2010 11:34 AM (GMT -8)
Now I'm not looking for sympathy or the like, I just want to take a moment to explain something. Some may wonder at my scarcity (and see that as a good thing lol) so I will explain a little, in case someone may feel that I have dropped out or lost interest or neglected them. A large part of the mods job is to watch for trouble, maybe reading every post, usually, welcome new friends, console those with not so good news, congratulate those with good and serve as a source for further info for those asking for it. In other words, be a daily presence and helpful person to all. You may be a new friend and noticed I didn't welcome you, or an old friend who I didn't congratulate their good news, or just haven't joined in the banter, like I used to.

The reason for that is I am now having to spend much more time caring for my Dad, who is Stage 4 Lung Cancer, and has maybe 3 months left, and my blind, diabetic and renal failing Mother. My brother, sister and I are sharing time and responsibilities, but anyone who has been there can tell you that you can never have enough help or time for yourself. I try to keep up with the Forum, what time I have at home, and on my phone when caring for them. Coming here is a needed change of pace, even if I don't spend a lot of time now replying to you folks. So if I miss a congrats, or a welcome, or don't respond to questions or such, it isn't that I've lost interest, or don't care about you or anything, it's I am conserving what time I do have. I don't want anyone to feel that I have slighted them, if they have read in the past when I welcomed almost everyone here, or shared in the joys of zero's or shared in the let downs of other not so good news.

Now, you spammers and troublemakers, don't take this admission as an opportunity, as I will still be watching for that, along with doting daughter and TonyC, so there's still sheriffs in town. nono devil smilewinkgrin
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Posted 7/26/2010 11:43 AM (GMT -8)
James,

The fact that you have any time for us at all in the front of challenges like that is to be respected and admired.

As always, thank you for your "stellar" - got the marshall's star in there ;) - contributions and balance.

My best wishes always to you and yours. We tend to forget that we are not the only ones with less than perfect days.
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zufus
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Posts : 3149
Posted 7/26/2010 11:43 AM (GMT -8)
You got plenty on your plate right now, a man has to do what he has to do, family takes presidence. Best to you, others can help with the welcome wagon effect.
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Sonny3
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Posts : 2464
Posted 7/26/2010 11:50 AM (GMT -8)
James,

Thank you for letting us know what's going on in your life. For those of us that believe in the power of prayer, we will be adding your family to our lists.

It is a given that HW could not function without the countless hours and energy that you and the others put into it. We thank you most heartedly.

Zufus was dead on when he said that family takes precedence. So spend your time and energies where you MUST and we are thankful when you have any left over for us.

Sonny
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John T
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Posted 7/26/2010 12:06 PM (GMT -8)

James,

Thanks for donating your time to make this forum work as well as it does. We all appreciate what you have done.

JohnT

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Tony Crispino
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Posts : 8160
Posted 7/26/2010 12:07 PM (GMT -8)
Hi James,
Your commitment to this website has been enormous. But your family comes first.

I tried handing in my moderator keys early this year. I have been so very busy at work/church/support groups, etc. that I have not read most posts since March. Our good Lord has blessed me with strong health. Enough so that I have stopped all treatment for prostate cancer and maintain undetectable PSA's while feeling normal again. Which means I am also very busy at work.

After three years, that's good enough for me...

Miss Doting Daughter has also been busy in her life, new babies, and good scores for her father. Her father and I have been on similar protocols and he too is doing well.

So it is that Peter asked me to stay on with the moderator tag if only for filling in occasionally. This would be one such time and if I can help, please let me know where...Again, I just don't have time to read all posts, but this site runs very well on its own.

Peace to all...

Tony
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Purgatory
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Posts : 25448
Posted 7/26/2010 12:23 PM (GMT -8)
James, I know you have your hands full, what a burden with both your mother and father that the same time. I will have to remember what you are dealing with, the next time my 83 year old mother is driving me crazy being a pain in the A*. At least she takes care of herself, still lives alone on her own property, etc. I wish you all the best as you continue with your own family's needs.

David in SC
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spottydog10
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Posts : 364
Posted 7/26/2010 1:14 PM (GMT -8)
James,

Thanks for everything you do here and best wishes for your family situation.
Mike

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Arnie
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Joined : Aug 2009
Posts : 374
Posted 7/26/2010 1:15 PM (GMT -8)
Hi James..about 16 years ago, my father was at Stage 4 lung cancer and failing fast. My mother was a basket case emotionally, and had recurring brain tumors (non-malignant) that affected her ability to do a lot of things. I was blessed with robust health at that time (age 42) and it drained me to no end. Hospice was called in, and I had to bring my father to my house to die because my mother couldn't cope--------------so I understand completely what that looks like, even when you have sibling assistance. Do what you have to do, and we'll be pulling for you to deal with things the best you can. It's a very critical time to be paying attention spiritually as well-------peace!

Arnie in DE

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Magaboo
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Posts : 1215
Posted 7/26/2010 2:10 PM (GMT -8)
Hi James,

I just wanted to add my voice to those thanking you for the great job you've been doing for us, even so your life is full of personal responsibilities. I would also like to extend my thanks to all moderaters and those members that so regularly contribute so much to the smooth running of this site. Even so I am a member now for about four years, I never fail to be impressed by the knowledge, compassion, articulateness and willingness to help by so many members. I feel truly blessed and fortunate that I've found this forum in my darkest hour. Thank you all.

Wishing for the best for all of you.

Magaboo

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rob2
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Posts : 1132
Posted 7/26/2010 2:12 PM (GMT -8)
Thanks for sharing. I know you are a great care giver.
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reachout
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Posts : 744
Posted 7/26/2010 2:45 PM (GMT -8)
James

Wow, that is just wow....  you have an unfathomable ability to help others.  May God bless you and your parents, and in the end I have to believe that our just rewards will come.

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60Michael
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Posts : 2504
Posted 7/26/2010 2:48 PM (GMT -8)

My thoughts are with you James as it is difficult but rewarding caring for our aging parents. We are at the age when we can be ill and caring for the ill at the very same time. My best to you and take care of yourself thru all of this.

Michael

 

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Worried Guy
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Posts : 3790
Posted 7/26/2010 3:58 PM (GMT -8)
James,

We all appreciate your efforts. It's the mods that set the tone of this neighborhood and keep it such a welcoming place.
Do what you have to do. Priorities are priorities.
Even if you don't write or call, we still love you, man.

Jeff (the leaking one)
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tatt2man
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Posts : 2845
Posted 7/26/2010 5:02 PM (GMT -8)
James:
We wish you and your family peace and contentment in this time of turmoil and thank you most sincerely for your hard work, kindness and support we have received as members of the HW family.
hugs,
BRONSON
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Cajun Jeff
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Joined : Mar 2009
Posts : 4175
Posted 7/26/2010 5:07 PM (GMT -8)
James: Thanks for sharing now it is our time to give you that support from the group. I know that you parents are very proud of you. Do what you have to do. We will just block the spammers.

Cajun Jeff
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Geebra
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Joined : May 2009
Posts : 476
Posted 7/26/2010 11:50 PM (GMT -8)
James,

You are a rock to many on this site. And, I am sure, you are a rock for your family. May God send you strength and peace. Thank you for all you do here.
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Sephie
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Posts : 1804
Posted 7/27/2010 3:18 AM (GMT -8)
James, thanks for the explanation but none was necessary...you have alot on your plate and, yes, family always takes precedence. You do what you have to do and don't worry (too much) about some of us troublemakers!

On a personal note, I hope that your dad is being kept comfortable. No doubt your presence must give him solace and the strength to move on to the next phase. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your dad, your mom, and everyone who cares about all of you.
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bluebird
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Posts : 2543
Posted 7/30/2010 5:44 AM (GMT -8)
James ~ Thank you for sharing with all of us.   Keeping you and your loved ones… extra close in our thoughts and prayers.   Here’s a little HUG from the 3 of us.   *bluebird  Lee, Buddy, and Murphy!   “GOD Bless You”   It's a little prayer "God Bless You" but it means so much each day, It means may angels guard you and guide you on your way.
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bluebird
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Posted 7/30/2010 5:48 AM (GMT -8)
«      «      «      «      «      «      «   This “ Hug ” is for “ You ” !!!   ~    You “are” someone special    ~      
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logoslidat
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Posts : 7585
Posted 7/30/2010 7:24 AM (GMT -8)
Thank you so much for the work you do here, you are in our thoughts and prayers.
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