This is a turn in the road, not a dead end. As I am sure you have read here on HW, we have men who have been going for many years with numbers worse than yours.
I am glad your doctor is on top of it. But don't be afraid to seek multiple opinions about the next step. The thread by Sonny has some great info and advice.
Good luck to you and your wife. You are not alone in this.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injection
No pads, 1/1/10, 9 month PSA < .01
1 year psa (364 days) .01
15 month PSA <.01