sorry to hear about these horror stories from the past. usually those kind of things are not normal, and should be reported afterward to the hospital administrators.
the catheter you will have inserted will already be there when you "wake" up. but most times, even if you have to have another one inserted, if done properly, its more of a mental distress for us guys, then a physical horror. if the nurse/doctor uses a liberal amount of lydacaine gel, and let is numb a few minutes, it can take all the pain out of it. in reality, you are having a tube (the well lubricated) catheter inserted into your urethra (a natural tube). like many things in our private areas, thinking about it, is much worse than the doing it part, thank goodness.
i dont know your personal situation, but i hope you have loved ones and/or friends to help you through this part. what part of the country do you live in? I live in a small city 10 miles west of Greenville, SC, halfway between Charlotte and Atlanta, in the foothills of the Appalachian Mtns. Real preta ty country.
In the pre-op part of your surgery, they usally put the first numbing med into you shortly after you meet with your anathesiolgist. once they do, being that its inserted in a port in your IV, it hits fast, and at that point, you won't have a worry in the world.
On some of my ops, I am feeling good but conscious even entering the operation room. they are always icy cold, and they typically will keep you covered with pre-warmed blankets, it feels great at the time. i have even helped them move me from the gurney to the table, but that is about it. even managed to joke about with the staff. but once they slip a mask over your nose and mouth, and say breathe in, the lights go out, and you are in the blisss of la-la land, until some sweet recovery nurses is calling your name. It's really not unpleasant, in my opinion.
David in SC
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 ?
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, on Catheter #21, will be having Ileal Conduit Surgery in Sept.