Judy, sounds like a very positive recovery path going on there with M. This is good to read. Sounds like his incontinence issues are being resolved in a timely manner. Sounds like he has a good attitudee going. Happy for both of you.
The ER part, best advice is whatever advice his doctor gave him. Some guys are too sore to even think about
it for a while. Others, especially sound of our younger friends, are eager to get back into the "game".
I had catheters in me for 60 days straight, after surgery, and as I was healing, the last thing I wanted to do was to be errect with a cath in place. It happened a few times near the end, and it was a painful happening. My wife patiently waited me out as I was healing.
When my uro/surgeon met with me at the 90 mark, he was all prepared to give me his ED talk and I am assuming having me try one or more of the ED meds, but I surprised him and told him I didn't need anything. That has been the one miracle in my journey. My left nerve bundle was taking out with a wide margin, and they couldn't get a clean shot due to how my prostate bed was shaped on the right side. So they never removed the right side, but my surgeon noted it as being "damaged".
In total honesty, I never had any ED. Even with one set of nerves left, once the cath was out, I was able to perform as normal. My own surgeon is still amazed and said he couldn't give me any medical reason why I didn't have a problem. He certainly didn't try to claim the credit for it from a surgical point of view.
Unfortunately, since I had salvage radiation, and considering I have been on SP catheters for nearly a year now, sex is very painful. That part still works fine as before surgery, but pain involved discourages me from wanting to participate for my own reasons.
Your M may do very well in that area too, when his recovery is at that point.
Good luck to the both of you.
David in SC
Post Edited (Purgatory) : 9/11/2010 9:46:56 PM (GMT-6)